In days of old women preferred to close eyes to unfaithfulness of the husband and if left, their act was subject to public censure. In modern society the customs became much more free therefore the woman can choose, forgive the traitor or terminate the relations.
Not everything is lost
According to some psychologists, treason is only one of ways to escape from the problems which appeared in couple. It is an opportunity in the veiled form to reach the partner, to show him that the relations are in a crisis stage, it is necessary to change something. At the same time the incorrectness of one of spouses can destroy family, or, on the contrary, will promote its strengthening and improvement of mutual understanding in family.
For some treason reminds something like doomsday. You should not think that it is impossible to forgive treason. However put here not only in acceptance, but also in ability to draw conclusions from current situation. It is important to understand what pushed the partner on such step? Why he decided to seek something new elsewhere? Would you likeWould you likeWould you like to be still together? If the answer to the last question positive, what needs to be done to learn to hear each other? What will be required to be changed in the relations? How to construct dialogue when it touches upon rather intimate subjects?
Rather important role is played by the moment when there was a treason. If it is about the beginning of the relations probably it is connected with fear of responsibility, subconscious unwillingness to start a family. The usual aspiration to disappear and escape. If it is about the long relations, most likely, the partner seeks elsewhere new feelings (including sexual), mutual understanding, care. Usually in such families the people already began to perceive each other as something self-evident, ceased to appreciate, what they have. It is necessary to discuss the similar moments if you intend to keep family. In this case readiness as is very important from the man, and women to work on problems. It will be necessary to recognize each other in new quality, to reconsider your values and habits and to lay the new foundation for your family happiness.
There is no way back
If treason for you is a treachery synonym, then hardly you will have forces to forgive it. Treachery does not say goodbye. Even if you will manage to improve the relations, the offense will remain deeply inside and constantly will come to light. Here it is very important not to ignore the emotions and experiences. Be not afraid to speak about them to your soulmate. Observe how the vis-a-vis reacts to all this what actions takes how tries to make amends. And, above all – think whether you can still trust the partner? If it is possible to make nothing, parting and the beginning of new chapter of the life will be the best decision.