Very often women test bitterness from the fact that the spouse comes home not in that state in which they expect. Many face an alcoholism problem. What to do?
Very big tension and daily tears of a grief will pursue that woman who cast in the lot with the alcoholic. Alcoholism has many reasons: it can be misunderstanding from relatives, difficulties at work, diffidence, impotence, dissatisfaction the sexual partner and many other things. Therefore for alcoholics the only exit to muffle the problems is to drink.
It is much easier if the alcoholic recognizes the disease and the wrong way of life, tries to overcome this habit somehow. Then there is a certain chance that the person will leave a condition of hard drinking and its life will get better.
But here what to do if the alcoholic does not recognize this problem? If you want to live joyfully and really, then will connect by the greatest nonsense the life with the alcoholic. The only desire of such person is to drink, and it is more and more strong. And it is absolute to it to spit on feelings of parents, children, other relatives. Will pass every day according to a certain scenario: since morning the alcoholic a hungover syndrome, and at you has scandals; there is no money, from office discharged, it is necessary to help with wineache. You will also wait for the same in the evening: instead of rest, carrying out time with the child, with family, the woman convulsively shudders from each sound and waits for arrival of the drunk husband.
Children also very much suffer from such father as he does not realize that he does when comes home to 3 o'clock in the morning, and in spite of the fact that all sleep, can make scandal or even a fight. Unfortunately, changes to the best in such situation when the person does not realize the problems, are almost brought to naught.
Over the years such situation can become even more difficult. Look at yourself in a mirror if you do not see any more the cheerful young girl who married the beautiful self-assured person, and before you the grown old and tired woman, then perhaps you need to stop the relations. From you your friends, neighbors will turn away that the most terrible – children will suffer.
Alcoholics actually rather dangerous people. In attacks of drunk rage the alcoholic can do heavy harm to health and life, and not only the spouse, but even to children. Since then will pass every day on the scenario described above, it will be terrible to you to see the spouse. In that case there is only one exit - it is to be enough children and to run at full speed from such house inadvertently not to run into big troubles. Except you, hardly already someone somewhere waits for such person. It turns out that your life passes by you. Think whether really it is worth living with the alcoholic?