The person whom you were once fallen in love and then left. There was everything: both pain, and offense, and hope for reunion which did not happen. Moreover, for many years you did not even see each other, perhaps, specially avoiding similar meetings. But here an opportunity to meet this person was presented, than it can turn back?
When it is impossible to meet the former love
People are suited not so simply, kind of sometimes there was a wish him. Happens that you left full understanding that these relations were superfluous in your life. Or perhaps you came off the person "with pain and blood" and long worried. Now at you everything is all right, however, sometimes all of you remember the former love, and at heart becomes somehow disturbing. But you do not live past. You have a new partner, communication with whom suits you. Love and mutual respect – a strong basis on which you build the new relations.
Nevertheless, you perfectly understand that feelings to the former partner passed not completely. In spite of the fact that you love the present life and do not wish to come back to the past, it nevertheless attracts and tightens. "Only I will look at it (or at it), and all", - so you finish yourself. But at heart you know, than it comes to an end. Old feelings will not return. The relations with someone from the past will never manage to be constructed anew. And here new to destroy in a sudden rush – easily. Or you restrain, will really be content with one meeting, but the meeting to you will cost much. You irritate what only began to heal.
It is better to refuse a meeting with the former love if you are not sure that you had to this person of no feelings.
When it is possible to meet former
You perfectly understand that it is impossible to enter the same river twice. You changed, and this person too. Both at you, and at the former partner the private life developed well, both of you are married or have strong happy relations. It is possible that in the past you were connected more likely by friendly feelings, than original passion. To you it was interesting and cheerful together. In this case the meeting can well take place if you sumt to find a common language and to speak, without remembering the past.
Psychologists recommend to meet the former partner only to those people who do not hold offenses and are not fascinated past.
A lot of things depend on your character
There are people at whom talent to be on friendly terms with the former. They sometimes even manage to make what the others consider miracle: to bring together at one table several former partners and one present, and at the same time perfectly to spend time, having been sure that all attendees have sincerely fun. If you are able to be on friendly terms if you forgot last offenses and feelings which covered you, then the meeting with the former love can become the beginning of new excellent friendship.