The alcoholic spouse is always the tragedy in family. Women for years stand such husbands for many reasons and the main of them – children. What to make a choice for the sake of the child: to remain and fight or leave for the sake of safety of the kid.
If children already teenagers, then it is possible to discuss this issue with them. They perfectly understand everything and have the opinion in this respect.
If your child is still small, then the burden of responsibility for it lies on you
It is necessary for small children for joy very little – happy mother and the father.
Even if before it you summon up courage and smile, and quarrels and scandals take place behind the closed door, the child feels everything.
As if from the birth they have a natural radar which is adjusted on emotion of parents. You will not conceal the grief and grief from children. Pain of mother is pain of the child. Such atmosphere negatively affects development of the kid and his further life. Children become isolated, the whole lump of complexes and fears which disturb full-fledged life is formed.
Before taking cardinal measures, talk to the husband
Very important: never try to conduct conversations with the spouse when he is drunk. In such condition of people inadequately assesses a situation and can sharply react. Let's the husband sleep it off, help to depart from an alcoholic dope and begin a conversation.
The main problem of any dependent person is that he does not consider himself by it. Try to explain to him as you see a situation, tell that it badly affects the child. Do not put ultimatums, offer options better. If the spouse recognized a problem, then be ready to fight for his sobriety for the rest of the life. Even the drop of alcohol can return everything back. If it is possible, send the child for a while to relatives or friends. At the beginning of fight against alcohol addiction often there are failures, the withdrawal pains begin. Let the kid will be better to see you not often, but happy. And separation from the child for the loving father will become a bigger motivation. After a while your kid will return to full-fledged happy family that will be the best option for it, mother and the father – the most important people in his life. Unfortunately, cases when alcoholism brought the man to blooming of hands are very frequent, and conversations do not help also the help he does not want to accept. When the husband threatens you and to children, it is necessary to ask for the help the family or in agencies of police and social assistance. In such situation for the sake of the child it is necessary to leave. It is already a question of physical safety you and your kid. You should not play a role of the heroine or great martyr, to anything good it did not lead any woman. Be not afraid to take this step even if you one. You will be always helped in the crisis centers. You remember the main thing that near you your kid, live and healthy. For the sake of the child mother is ready to overcome many difficulties. He can does not understand why there is no father nearby, the main thing do not deceive the baby. The kid will grow up, everything will understand and will surely tell thanks to mother who made everything for his happiness.