Each parent wants to bring up the child estimable. It that on him equaled and held up as an example. Probably, therefore all so seek to enclose in the heads of the children all the lightest and fine. A question only in how parents do it.
Instruction
1. All parents have ways of impact on the child. Some prefer peaceful dialogue with the daughter or the son, others bribe children, and someone does not shun also by the most radical methods. Unfortunately, still many parents use a whip method though everyone has heard a lot about its inefficiencies. Some consider that old ways of education work more true, and use of force — the only way to grow up the real person.
2. And there is a wish to argue with it. To grow up the person, applying corporal punishments, of course, it is possible, but whether this person will be grateful then for similar science? What can the kid impart pokes and slaps? What will become with its weak mentality?
3. Physical punishment is not a method of education. It more likely powerlessness of parents before a situation. Recognition of own defeat. Having hit the child, the adult will not teach him to do right thing, and only will show what cannot cope with the emotions. Though, tried to teach it the kid.
4. Physical punishment in itself is deprived of sense. Educational measures have to be directed to correction of behavior, but not to its transformation. Punishing the child, it is impossible to teach him to do right thing. Children, under pressure, can change the actions, but it will be temporary. Besides, the child will not even understand in what his offense. He just will be afraid reflex of punishment for him, but in what the essence of its mistake — will not understand.
5. Consequences of punishments by a belt can be the most deplorable. It is possible to lose easily not only trust, but also love of dear little man. Manifestation of physical force over weak is the most terrible that can be. The kid, naturally, cannot respond to attacks of parents and, often, mothers and fathers use it, trying to obtain humility from the child. In soul of the kid the fear appears. Fear of the dearest people who have to explain and edify, but in any way not beat.
6. Terribly of the fact that over time, in many families, children so get used to a beating that do not think about other life. Manifestation of understanding and participation by it is wild and unusual. A certain behavior model is involuntarily formed and, having matured, yesterday's children begin "to lay hands" at each opportunity. And the same methods bring up already the children.
7. Physical punishment is possible and it is necessary to replace with other methods of education. Absolutely little children can be distracted easily. If the kid does something forbidden, it is not necessary to slap him at once. It is much simpler to pay attention to other moments, than parents got used to think. And as a result — pride of and lack of fault before the baby.
8. Children are more senior are quite capable to listen to explanations of seniors. And if the adult, having had patience, explains to the child his wrongfulness — he will be heard and understood. Children of much do not know yet, they intuitively explore the world, involuntarily stumbling at the same time. Patience of parents, perhaps, the most important in the course of education. Patience and ability to understand.
9. There is nothing more simply, than by force to cope with the child, to show him who in main in family. But violence generates only violence. To get on with the child, to become him not only the mentor, but also the friend is the only certain way to grow up the child the real personality. In families where physical violence under a ban, children grow up kind, sympathetic and noble.