Disputes on a possibility of female friendship are conducted not one decade — during this time were both adherents, and critics of similar relationship. What the concept of friendship in this case consists in and whether there is it actually — about it and the speech in this article will go.
Psychology of a concept of the phenomenon friendship
From the psychological point of view, friendship it is possible to call disinterested relationship between people who are built on the principles of trust, sincerity, sympathy and the common vital interests. Many psychologists believe that it would be wrong to divide this concept by gender, but actually emotional and behavioural features of men and women nevertheless make certain changes in standard process of confidential interaction would seem.
Important! Psychological reasons for the true female friendship are put at early children's age when subject role-playing games begin to be divided by gender. If the girl learns to interact correctly with the girlfriends behind games in house, then and further it will be much simpler to it to build up with them trusting, adult relationship.
For this reason the female friendship can be divided into several options of manifestation conditionally:
- situational and long-term;
- deep and friendly;
- based on personal features of each party and caused by their professional activity.
Importance of full immersion in a conversation with the girlfriend will be the general gender characteristic for all these options. Women cannot just listen to the interlocutor and answer the questions posed — for maintenance of communication to them it is necessary to plunge emotionally every time into the story by other person, together with it enduring each situation.
The ability to the high level of empathy was put at a female for centuries, in particular and thanks to incubation of the child (tender feelings and compassion to the children gradually developed into similar feelings to close people). A similar emotional talk can seem to men useless chatter, but enduring together any given situation, girlfriends help to find a way out of it or just facilitate emotional cargo of each other when one of them is not ready to the concrete decision yet.
Why we need friends
The person — a being social, and it means that social contacts are simply necessary for him for harmonious development and achievement of new tops in personal and professional activity. Women by the nature more emotionally than men therefore for them it is very important to splash out in due time outside excess emotions — and it is unimportant, positive they or negative. The accumulated internal energy leads to self-destruction, often promoting a long female depression.
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In a conversation with the girlfriend it is possible to speak each concerning moment, kind of dividing a problem into two parts. Besides, only in dialogue the truth is born therefore quite often others point of view or the problem which is simply sounded aloud lead to the logical and most correct decision. Happiness of true friendship is expressed in:
- understanding of presence of the person who will always listen and will support;
- possibilities of obtaining joint life experience which will unite further even more people;
- regular interchange by experience, knowledge and psychological energy;
- presence of internal warmth which is felt even at distance;
- constant feeling of the importance.
Quite often women need just to be uttered, without condemnation of everything made by them. Men, unfortunately, just are not always capable to listen, without giving at the same time any estimates what you will not tell about the girlfriend.
Difference between friendship and communication
Some people estimate friendship only in terms of productive communication, however these two concepts are not identical each other. Just to discuss some subject or to share news, it is optional to make to himself the friend or the girlfriend, during the day we contact to absolutely different people, constantly talking to them. As a last resort, it is possible to transfer communication to the virtual world of the Internet, unburdening the heart to the interlocutor from social networks or to readers of separate forums.
Important! The true friendship is checked for years and the joint experience endured by friends. Only having visited various situations, having tested with the person of sorrow and joy, it is possible to be sure of the decision to entrust it the most intimate experiences.
However in all these situations you will not be able to entrust other person true experiences and disorders, it is very important to each of us to feel emotional return at communication. Empathy and sincere readiness to like all problems of the interlocutor, making every effort for the solution of its vital problem — the main difference of friendship from usual daily communication. At the correct construction of friendship, girlfriends will be able to help to cope with various vital disorders each other: beginning from bad mood and finishing with an emotional imbalance from constant quarrels in family.
Whether there is a female friendship
Much manage to endure experience of friendly relationship, but here between women it is not always possible to speak about true friendship. A game of girls in dolls and the joint solution of problems at mature age — not the same therefore let's find out what positive and negative sides are available in such type of interaction.
Whether learn about that there is a friendship between the man and the woman.
Advantages
All advantages of female friendship can be divided into two groups conditionally: superficial (are available practically to all) and deep which affect personal experiences. In the first case it is about satisfaction of needs for social contacts, the solution of simple professional or personal problems, joint interesting pastime. As for the second group, here presence of the real girlfriend opens much more opportunities, will be basic of which:
- emotional stability;
- feeling of the importance;
- existence of continued mutual support that is especially important when to wait for it there is nobody any more.
Sometimes girlfriends help to be implemented each other in the professional sphere, reaching together the planned heights though such situations meet not often.
Possible difficulties of such friendship
Unfortunately even long-term friendship can crack or collapse completely, as the reason of what appearance of the man and the related stronger emotional experiences, or banal envy to others progress often acts. In the latter case further succession of events is based on the power of internal spirit of rivalry and if at someone from women it is developed stronger, then all further relationship will come down to definition of that at whom the fur coat is longer.
Whether you know? The case which happened to the Japanese athletes at the Olympic Games in 1936 can serve as an example of true friendship. Having shown identical result in pole vaults, they did not agree with a verdict of jury and decided to saw the medals that everyone received an identical, silver-bronze award.
With the advent of the man everything becomes even more difficult, especially if both girlfriends are keen on the same male. In this case rivalry often gets absolutely unexpected turns, and often it is not only about the termination of friendly relationship, but also about the beginning of the real hostility. Initially, friendship is the union of equal people, but as soon as one of them begins to be allocated favourably against the background of another and the general common ground disappears, problems do not manage to be avoided any more. In other words, it is possible to answer a question of existence of sincere female friendship only after a while when both girlfriends could pass through all obstacles, having never envied and not having wished what another has. Such cases really meet, but is not as frequent as it would be desirable.
Why women doubt friendship
At early age the vast majority of female representatives are inclined to believe in existence of sincere female friendship, and understanding that it not always is that, comes later. Most often the endured negative experience connected with treachery or constant envy of the one whom the woman considered the real girlfriend becomes the mistrust reason to similar relationship.
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To struggle with the increased emotionality very difficult therefore it is difficult to forgive other person, and even when the reasons of his behavior are quite explainable. Only objective assessment of all statements and actions and also a sincere wish of happiness to the loved one will allow to build up long-term friendship, and it concerns not only women's, but also male friendship which also happens.