The fatigue moments from family life are peculiar to the people who are long in marriage. Often, they are caused by quarrels, household problems, accumulation of mutual offenses and cooling of feelings. During this difficult period near the man that can suddenly appear to whom his boring life will play new paints. And having crossed forbidden line, it will ruin step by step the long-term marriage.
First "calls"
In circulation of household chores, sometimes, it is difficult for women to look on the parties and to notice that the husband began to change imperceptibly. If desired it is possible to think up a set of justifications why it is thoughtful and shipped in itself(himself). Even in the sexual sphere it is easy to write off cooling for the fatigue, feeling sick or extra kilos of the wife gathered for pregnancy. The main thing that work, the habitual schedule, favourite hobbies remain in the spouse's life on the place, thereby lulling female alarm and concern.
Perhaps, the wife will look for the reasons of fading of passion and, without having received the distinct answer, will take a waiting attitude. Or will not attach significance as for her sex ceased to win first place in the relations long ago. It will just fill the formed emptiness with series, chatter on phone with girlfriends or social networks. After all, the discomfortable situation will become a habit.
Who is wanted by married men
At the time of the highest loneliness and oblivion the man can meet "rescuer". She will be near as if on magic. And it will be not the so young seductress with a big breast whose image emerges in the head of wives at the word "mistress". His coeval becomes an outlet of the married family man, often, or the lady is a little more senior – the colleague, the friend, the neighbor.
Most likely, before rapprochement future lovers some time were familiar. The man secretly admired its independence, confidence, well-groomed appearance. She is quite capable to provide herself, though did not make transcendental career. Perhaps, in the past of the lady there was an unsuccessful marriage, there is a child. But it rather adult not to overset its plans, or is brought up with assistance of the grandmother and the grandfather.
As the man begins to change
For the first time treason can not be planned in advance. Successfully developed circumstances, an unexpected privacy of lovers push to it. Flirtation, curiosity, temptation to try something new – all this to some extent promotes rapprochement of two people.
The man is covered again long ago by the forgotten feelings comparable with the first years of marriage. It is interesting to it with this woman, easily, comfortably. Unlike the wife, she does not load lots of house problems, always perfectly looks. The mistress skillfully warms up the conqueror's instincts quietly - the hospitable relation. On the one hand, does not cling to the new partner and without him leads full-fledged, rich life. And with another – I am always glad to a meeting if he shows willingness, and with ease cancels the plans.
The man likes even the forgotten feeling of jealousy. The wife who turned from a desire object into the servants, the teacher of children and the cook does not cause proprietary feelings long ago. And the new ladylove needs to be kept still, she at any time can leave, and it, certainly, excites in the man the conqueror's instincts.
Besides, the mistress has an opportunity to show only one party of the life – elegant and carefree. The old t-shirt, a bunch on the head or a rag for cleaning are reliably hidden from eyes of the unfaithful husband and are replaced with a sexual peignoir, magnificent curls and a romantic dinner.
Campaigns to it become an outlet and one of the few pleasures of life. Rough sex, spiritual proximity, easy leisure – for the sake of it the unfaithful husband is ready to risk everything, than until recently valued.
Secret novel
Adrenaline in blood is warmed up by an aura of a secret which lovers are forced to protect from accidental detection. Planning of new meetings, discussion of details, need "to hold the person" before other people brings together them even more. Let on it a lot of time will leave, the free woman has no place to hurry. She, unlike childless mistresses, already has a child therefore "biological clock" does not push to pressure upon the man. And presence of the offspring at the lady does not confuse foreign husband any more. Unlike own children, it should not be brought up if there is no great desire.
At heart the traitor the decision ripens. He relaxes, behaves less carefully. As the natural result, the wife learns about its adventures.
What final will be
Of course, it is difficult for the deceived woman to refrain from scandal. And she splashes out all offenses at the unfaithful husband, thereby facilitating him ways to retreat. He already thought of a divorce, and here just uses an occasion to slam defiantly the door. And if the wife herself expelled, then in the opinion of people around the man will be the victim which did not want to understand and forgive.
The divorce is inevitable. The traitor leaves to the new beloved. The wife receives children and alimony. At first to her, most likely, it will be heavy. But sooner or later the offense will cease, life will begin to be adjusted. Children will grow up, the woman, having exempted from a half of household chores, with pleasure will take care of the own life. Again, as in the best years, will feel free, attractive, interesting.
Ironically, the deceived wife someone else's husband will meet too. Only now, being in the place of the mistress, she will already enjoy sex, the pleasant company and not to hurry anywhere. Now it has no persuasive need to marry in a hurry as this stage is passed long ago any more, and new life as it appeared, has the advantages.
And if after all the lover leaves family, the free woman will not object. At them the love and mutual understanding that was not enough for both in last marriages reigns in the relations. She will also not remember the last emotions on the place of the deceived wife. And will hardly sympathize with the present competitor. In these delusions, false hopes, search of justifications to the unattractive acts every time there is an eternal circulation of husbands, mistresses and wives.