To understand who such aseksuala, it is necessary to address psychological aspects and characteristics of their personality. The science defines a concept of an aseksualnost as total absence or extremely weak sexual desire. The men and women belonging to this category have distinctive features, in comparison with other people having non-standard relation to sexual desire.
What is characteristic of an aseksual?
- The total absence or the underestimated need for sexual contacts which are not connected with moral rejection and not depending on the person.
- The Aseksualnost does not mean physical inability to commission of sexual intercourse.
- To understand what means aseksuat, you should not consider that its state is sexual frustration: as a rule, it does not bring to the person of either physical, nor psychological discomfort.
- The Aseksualnost has nothing in common with impotence (at men) or frigidity (at women), just these people have the special view of sex.
- Today all aseksual conditionally divide into two groups: those who categorically deny sex and do not see in it any requirement and sense, and those who are ready to enter the sexual relations with the representative of an opposite sex, but only are exclusive for the sake of reproduction.
However when sexual desire is present how to understand what you – aseksuat?
Signs of an aseksualnost
- Sympathies for representatives of an opposite sex in the absence of strong sexual inclination to them are possible.
- The sexual inclination can seldom arise at preservation of the normal household relations with the partner.
- Desire to come into sexual contacts can arise only to those people with whom there is close emotional and positive connection.
- Aseksual, as a rule, has warm feelings to the partner, but does not see need for continuous sexual communications.
Life without sex – not it an unusual occurrence if it is so conceived by the nature. However there are people, especially their is a lot of among young people whom the similar state of affairs attracts, and they try to learn how to become aseksualy. Present – in any way because such state is congenital, but not acquired. It is impossible to become aseksualy by request. Everything that in this plan will be undertaken by the person with usual sexual orientation, will be nothing else as violence over own personality, and the aspiration of many to sexual abstention is not an aseksualnost at all.
For some women became the real trouble the husband aseksuat. However, some of them are inclined to consider roughness and inattention manifestations of an aseksualnost that is not correct. Actually, such husband, most likely, will be tender and attentive, careful, but not striving for sexual proximity. However, in case of need, namely, for the sake of the birth of children, he can have sex, but – no more than that. How to arrive in that case to the woman – she has to solve.
It is worth allocating separately aseksual and those who are called child-free. And if for the sake of reproduction sexual relations it is ready to enter aseksuat, will categorically not do it child-free as he sees the life only without children. At the same time to admonish, shame, persuade these people it is useless – they perceive this world quite so, and do not see need for children, as well as do not understand value of sexual proximity, perceiving it as the rough animal relations. Around themselves they see life harmonious, ordered, quiet and happy that cannot be received in the presence of children.
Most of psychologists do not consider such behavior a deviation, however among them in this respect there is also other opinion.