Now all have phones, and in phones messengers, and many couples, unfortunately, forgot to live tasty separation - one of the most interesting periods of the relations. It is difficult to present real as was earlier, separation from darling, video conference costs kopeks and is available practically to all.
Great La Rochefoucauld great noticed: "Separation weakens easy hobby, but strengthens great passion just as wind extinguishes a candle, but inflates the fire. Temporary separation is useful because constant communication generates visibility of monotony". It brings us to the first rule of the balanced and healthy relations which conditionally is called "Let he tasty misses you". It not the scientific rule, so, it works.
The fact is that the brain is arranged thus: when there is a desirable object, but there is no opportunity to receive it at once, this object begins "to drill" a brain signals in the form of pictures, representations, freak of the imagination, internal dialogues begins... The brain begins to twirl a desirable object and so, thereby strengthening neural relations with a required object - with you.
If not to go deep into subtleties, an essence of neural communications such is - if mental energy (thoughts) often pass on the same ways (the inflamed man constantly remembers you), the neurons loaded with energy communicate with each other synapses and dendrites; that is in a brain there is really anatomic reorganization that it was more convenient to brain of the man to think of you. This process repeatedly amplifies during separation.
And so, if you correspond in messengers - the brain of the man does not build difficult and deep communications with you because does not consider that you somewhere away and not to reach you. Correspondence in messengers is not considered separation. Therefore, according to La Rochefoucauld, the fire is not inflated.
Details in the book Santiago Ramone-and-Kakhalya "Neural or reticular?", Nobel Prize laureate.
Besides, it is useful to spend time separately in general for couples. Those who spend all free time together shortly or will leave, or to change the behavior. When you not together - do not correspond endlessly. Be moderate in communication by phone. It will give you the chance to miss really and to talk "about everything" when you are together. Separate time provides balance in the relations.
Instead of infinite communication according to the messenger try to experiment. For example, revive nice tradition of love letters. Yes, now not those times and so on; at the same time, nobody prevents you to play, and introduction data are as follows: you with darling in separation, you take the sheet of paper, the handle and, naturally, by hand write the love letter. Your beloved does the same. If one letter insufficiently - you write two. And then at a meeting you read them each other. First, to you will be what to occupy a pause between acts (and what else you were going to be engaged after long separation in?), and secondly, will be about what to tell girlfriends, precisely men do not write love letters to them, at most what they are capable of - allegedly indecent photos.
Understand: when he misses you, he thinks of you. He thinks of the feelings to you. Whether you need it?