The conflicts between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law happen rather often. It is especially difficult to get on to two women in one apartment, it is almost impossible to ignore each other in this case.
Instruction
1. It is difficult to two hostesses to coexist peacefully in one apartment. Each woman has concepts about purity, a cosiness and need of household chores. For example, the mother-in-law considers that it is necessary to wash the floors every day, and the daughter-in-law has enough 2 times a week. One woman does not represent a dinner without 3 dishes, and another keeps a figure, does not eat after 6 in the evening and acquaints the husband with a healthy lifestyle. Whether it is necessary to iron bed linen? The mother-in-law by all means does it, and the daughter-in-law does not want to spend on it time.
2. At each of women the view of a household and her it is inconvenient to live by someone else's rules. Therefore the conflicts on the household soil are almost inevitable. The mother-in-law often for the best wants to teach the daughter-in-law to do everything "correctly". The young wife perceives councils as criticism, discontent and invasion into personal space.
3. Often the mother-in-law interferes not only with housekeeping, but also with personal records between the son and his wife. Some mothers impartially speak the daughters-in-law, and sometimes both slander on them and spoil it the relations in family of the son. The mother-in-law wants her child to have an ideal wife therefore the reason for criticism of the daughter-in-law will always be. Some mothers are not ready to realize that the son already grew up and has the right to live life. In turn the daughters-in-law tired of intervention of the mother-in-law on all affairs of family, often present the husband with a choice: "Either I, or she".
4. Quite often mother and the wife compete with each other for love of the son and husband. Both demand gifts not worse, than he presented to the second woman. At the same time the mother-in-law can consider that the son excessively indulges the wife, and it seems to the daughter-in-law that the husband spends too much money from the family budget for mother.
5. When in young family there are children, there is one more reason for the conflict. For the last 20 years of the recommendation of pediatricians and psychologists for care for kids strongly changed. The mother-in-law, based on the experience, can suggest to begin a feeding up from 3 months, to give to the kid a pacifier, to dopaivat the newborn. Mother can nurse the kid about half a year only, not give dummies and carry the child in a baby sling, alien for the senior generation. Thus that both women want for the kid of the best, they can create the intolerable psychological atmosphere in the house, and it will affect, first of all, the child.
6. Therefore more and more families seek to begin to live separately from the parents. If young people have no means for purchase of housing, they move to the rental apartment.