Women adore speaking about the feelings and requirements by means of delicate hints. The cause is congenital sensitivity, constraint or playfulness.
But, unfortunately, the man in 99% of cases poyonimat female statements literally, without guessing that the lady tries about what - that to him to hint. As a result the woman takes offense: "It stale and inattentive". And the man is annoyed with whims and female logic. To break off a vicious circle of misunderstanding, it is necessary to understand why men do not understand hints.
Men do not look for the hidden meanings
Whether the truth that the fizioyologiya of a male brain prevents the man to poniyomat hints? Really! The facts which testify to it, are as follows: at women in the analysis of information both cerebral hemispheres, and actively work for most of men - only left. The man perceives information as the fact which should be estimated critically, and the woman by all means zadeystvuyot also area of feelings. Therefore the husband, having heard from the wife: "What krasiyovy flowers!", just priyomt to data ("She considers that these flowers beautiful"). And the woman will take offense that it does not razyovivat a chain further, does not look for the hidden motiyova of a statement, etc. It so clearly namekyonut to it that wishes it podayorit it flowers!
Conclusion. The husband not zanimayetyosya sabotage and not namerenyono does not understand you. His brain actually differently is arranged! It is better to leave delicate hints for girlfriends and to inform of your feelings and desires the beloved, it is better to use unambiguous designs: "I very much like these flowers. I wish you podayorit to me such bouquet!"
Men do not perceive information aurally
By scientists it is established: women in analytical centers of a brain have more nervous cages otveyochayushchy for information transfer, than at men. Therefore men, unlike women, hardly perceive an inyoformation aurally. In practice it looks as follows: the more you speak, the your man understands less. And if you say allegorically or by means of hints, then consider that you razgovayorivat with a wall.
Conclusion. Try to formulate most precisely and briefly a thought of which you want to inform the man. Do not force tempo of speech, you tell slowly, accurately progovayorivy words.
Men "read" nonverbal signals worse
Psychologists ustanoyovit that men hardly understand nonverbal signayola. Therefore you should not wander about the house with a sad look, hinting that you than - that are upset. BolYoshinstvo of men will not be able "to read" your nonverbal signals, and will just think that something hurts you or you it is simple not in the spirit of and it is better not to disturb you.
Conclusion. If you want the husband to vyrayozit to you sympathy, then tell directly: "I am upset because...". The significant umolchayoniya, mumpish sponges, mournful mines and similar bessloyovesny signals hardly will prayovilno be regarded.