The relations with the mother-in-law at the daughter-in-law can not develop for many reasons. Very often family relations begin to crack after the child's birth. The mother-in-law becomes a grandmother, appears in the house of young people more often, distributing advice to the daughter-in-law on education of the grandson. According to the mother-in-law, she more skilled, grew up the son, everything knows and is able.
Not to aggravate a situation, it is necessary to develop tactics of communication with the husband's mother still before the kid was born. The first what it is necessary to proceed from: to understand who is she such, your mother-in-law? You should not think that all of them are identical. It is possible to allocate several widespread types.
Relations with the young mother-in-law
If the mother-in-law is still young, good herself, is divorced, it is a lot of and fruitfully works, then it is necessary to prepare that after the child's birth you can have a problem with whom to leave it sometimes to leave. This mother-in-law will hardly burden herself with such work as sitting with the grandson. And not because she does not want, just she has on it no time. Positive in this situation it is possible to consider that, as she will have no time for advice to the daughter-in-law too.
Let's say the mother-in-law is married and is safe in this status feels. The relationship will be built up in this case more difficult. Here business in the young wife. Mother always has to see that her son is treated kindly, fed, well-groomed. Therefore she will estimate care of the daughter-in-law of own fumes, will fall in love and will be able always to take care of grandsons because she really knows how to do it.
The mother-in-law with whom it is difficult to get on
It is necessary to meet more difficult with the mother-in-law who is similar to a hen. She all the life pottered with the son, refused, maybe, for the sake of him own women's happiness. Such woman enters into young family in addition to the husband, including herself the main person and in family of the son. And it will keep out anybody including parents of education of grandsons. With such mother-in-law it is necessary to be tolerant and attentive, it would be good to learn about unrealized plans of her youth: timely unostentatious council for implementation of an unfulfilled dream can quite become a starting point of those relations which will save you and grandsons from excessive guardianship. The despotic mother-in-law is the worst option from all which can be. The requirement to unconditionally submit to her will be obligatory also for grandsons. It is desirable to avoid scandals, otherwise the relations and with the husband will deteriorate and it is worth thinking of nervous system of the kid. It is better to part and meet only as necessary, not to forget to show an affection for holidays and birthdays. Such mother-in-law will remember any inattention of you. It is desirable for daughter-in-law to make the analysis and own mistakes and miscalculations: it is necessary just to begin to respect mother of own husband, she brought up the man loved by you.