Your kid upsets you with the disobedience? You are led into a blind alley by its often repeating whims? It seems to you that the child does everything to you to spite? Came it is time to understand a situation in more detail!
If the child does not obey, first of all, try to understand the reasons of such behavior. They can be various and depend on age of the kid. If to yours to the baby year or is a little more, and it already causes you serious problems the hyperactivity, most likely, it is all about high inquisitiveness of your kid. At this age children begin to learn actively the world around, the task of adults is not to stop these attempts strict it "is impossible", and to help the child correctly to orient with those things which surround it.
It is important to understand that the kid still has no internal barrier interfering commission of the acts, wrong in terms of the adult. Do not abuse in vain your fidget, try to explain to him in language, available to understanding, better that it is good and that is bad. Stock up with patience, over time your kid will begin to treat the world surrounding it more consciously.
What to do if the child who is 2-3 years old does not obey? The same, as concerning one-year-old capricious children. But in this case it is also worth considering new age features of development of the kid. About three years formation "I" the child which affects his behavior begins.
Crisis of 3 years is rather serious boundary in psychological development of the child, having passed who, it will be able to identify itself(himself) as the personality. Be ready to emergence of so-called "egoism" when your kid seeks to do everything. Do not interfere with it in it even if are in advance sure that at it it will not turn out to execute everything as it is necessary. Encourage the child's initiative, encourage him, at this age there is laying of bases of self-confidence and in the forces. Of course, you should not forget and that you are still a peculiar censor for actions of the child, well explain to him what is good and what is bad.
At more advanced preschool age, in 4-6 years, the disobedient child can differ in bad behavior because of desire to draw attention to himself, because of pamperedness or the need for self-affirmation. Analyze your relations with the kid: whether enough you give him time whether not too you chose authoritative style of education? Perhaps, on the contrary, your child got used to special attention to the person and now manipulates you as he wants.
How to teach the child to be obedient? Motivate your kid to good behavior! Talk to it more often, read cautionary stories and fairy tales, focus attention of the child on how other good children behave. Do not apply physical punishments at all, otherwise to you not to avoid reciprocal protest behavior.
Being engaged in education, parents have to be ready to the fact that they should show a lot of patience, understanding and wisdom until their child firmly acquires all standard rules of conduct in society.