In life of the man there are two important women: mother and spouse. Sometimes between them there is a jealousy and misunderstanding. If it seems to you that your man is more attached to the mother, it is not necessary to begin war and to threaten with a divorce, look for peace, but productive decisions.
The love for mother and for the wife very much differs, they cannot be compared. But only is not always enough for about both times therefore there are friction. It is worth understanding that a choice between these ladies cannot be made, it is impossible to betray one for the sake of another and for this reason it is worth looking for alternative decisions. And most often in such situation the spouse should make changes to life, to try to move away from parents.
Love for mother
The strong affection for mother often arises at those men that grew without father. The woman spent all the life for education of the beloved son, did everything for the sake of his happiness. For this reason he feels obliged and understands that except it there is nothing important in the mother's life. It is impossible to turn away from it, it is equated to treachery. And she, in turn, does not want to release the son, does not understand how to construct the existence without it.
Mother never throws the child, she does not betray, does not hurt. Near her he feels protected. And if to try to separate them, there is a serious trauma which can lead to deterioration in the attitudes towards the spouse. It is important not to forbid to communicate, not to deprive of this opportunity, and just to divide two families, to define rules of the space.
Correct relations with parents
That it did not seem that mother is more important, it is necessary to live separately. Then there will be a space for the spouse where she is a hostess and the beloved, and the place of mother where it is regularly possible to visit. If the husband refuses to live without mother, think out various occasions to part, but you do not shout, do not blackmail with a divorce or something else. Any scandals will only aggravate a situation, real arguments, but not just are necessary to emotion. Make friends with the spouse's mother, do not do of her the enemy. Often her word is more important, than yours, it near the son is much more than years therefore to enter confrontation is useless. Show it that you will not take away from her the boy that you for frequent communication. Ask it council, be interested in health, you give small gifts. Its arrangement will be very useful for you. If there is a rivalry, it is necessary to show the love. And to do it without criticism, and honestly and very sincerely. Show the love to the husband, care for him, show respect and faith in him. In this case he will see, what are you doing it not to prove it something, and just like that. It will become the most important argument. The one who will abuse the opponent will lose in this fight. But it is better not to enter such wars as it is possible to constrain rage not always.