The reasons for which the man leaves much: desire to diversify sexual life, to return itself feeling of freedom, lack of emotional attachment and love. Men come back if parting did not lead to achievement of desirable result. The jealousy, feeling of loneliness, understanding of the feelings can become the reason.
Women often do not understand why men at first leave, and then decide to return. Most often an explanation simple – the partner understood as far as to it with you it was convenient and comfortable. Sometimes it needs time to understand that there is a love, there is a risk to lose the woman. In such situations the main rule is not to pay attention to councils of people around, girlfriends, parents. It can become the reason of commission of gross blunders for which you will blame yourself.
The most frequent reasons why the man comes back
Quite often banal comparison is the cornerstone of such action. The man changes partners after parting, looks for the same relations which were before. Over time desire of new adventures and impressions leaves. He understands that more it so nobody will love. In this case return to the former beloved is often caused by usual egoism. It is necessary to be ready to the fact that after a while it to move off in searches of the new victim again.
The second reason – jealousy. Men owners by the nature. Only units forget about loved after parting. Many continue to trace her life to trifles. At emergence on the horizon of the new young man in life of the woman there is a jealousy, desire to return itself "property". The former young man begins to fight, try to obtain again. The new boyfriend is perceived as the rival. In such times the romanticism, tenderness and care wakes up. As soon as the partner manages to achieve the objectives, he with feeling of pleasure leaves again.
The reasons connected with revaluation of the life and the last relations
Sometimes in life of the man there comes the difficult stage. At this time he will not be engaged in search of new love, he just needs to make revaluation of everything that happened to it. In this case men really have feeling of remorse. They:
- honestly explain the reason of the leaving;
- sincerely apologize;
- are ready not only in words, but also on actions to prove the love.
In such situation there is "reset" of the relations. In them bright emotions can appear. Couple can begin to travel, introduce new details in intimate life.
If the man leaves family in which there are children, and an experience of the matrimonial relations – not year and not two, then the reason of return can be in understanding of the loneliness. The feeling of freedom very quickly bothers, the melancholy for a home, the children and the wife appears.
Sometimes the mistake on which understanding time is required is the cause for parting. Rather small amount of time that negative emotions passed into the background, common sense triumphed. In this case return often begins with apologies, a conversation "heart-to-heart".
Crisis of middle age
One more reason because of which families – crisis of middle age very often break up. Men transfer it much more difficult, than women. There is it aged from 35 up to 55 years, is connected with revaluation of the experience. Here the rule works – the man has less values, the longer on time this period will proceed.
Very often men find a solution of the questions in new hobby. Affairs with young girls are often created. In this case the wife who is not able to forgive treason acts as the initiator of men's leaving. In overwhelming quantity of cases in several months the young passion bothers the man, he comes back to the spouse. If there is a risk that it will not occur, and to destroy family there is no desire, then:
- Be wise and you are silent. A bit later, when emotions will cease at both partners, you will be able to construct the correct dialogue.
- Find the ally. For this role also the mother-in-law who most often supports preservation of family, but not the young mistress can approach.
- Try to receive as much as possible information about the competitor. It will allow you to understand that it brought to her your spouse.
Look from the men's party
Men explain the return with other reasons. At first there is interest in how there lives his ex-girlfriend. If in her life nothing interesting occurs, then for several months the man loses it from the field of the sight again. At appearance of the new boyfriend, career development there is a feeling of internal indignation, desire to renew the relations.
If in couple there are general children, the young man considers natural to appear in life former. There is an upholding of the territory, protection of children from influence of other men due to violation of private life of mother.
Sometimes as the reason of renewal of relations serves the banal laziness. With the last woman it is simpler to build up the relationship as a lot of things are already studied and passed. Sometimes the emotional bond, feeling of melancholy and lack of emotional support which was earlier becomes a push.