You the man or the woman, in marriage or not, it is not so important. Understanding is wanted by all equally. Owing to human egoism many do not think of the partner. Try to build your relations initially correctly. Nobody will try to understand you against your will or without your participation. You understand - you are understood. All is rather logical.
It turns out to be a witness, it is necessary most to show:
- patience;
- openness;
1. Let's talk. Build up the relationship initially so that in them the main thing was - a talk. Avoid quarrels, reproaches, a showdown, scandals, charges. Otherwise, you can only become loathsome each other. Replace all this with a conversation. Yes, it is possible, it is a little boring, but will keep your nerves and the relations. In a conversation both orchestra seats have an opportunity to express and understand each other.
2. Do not hide. Do not hesitate to describe to the partner the feelings, do not hide them. All that is concealed, splashed out outside by a huge lump at the most inappropriate moment. If you can freely express the feelings to the partner, it already means that you are not afraid to be misunderstood and trust this person.
3. Now his turn. Listen to the partner in reply.
- Do not chop off the partner's monologue about your shortcomings, including all this a lie. If he listened bad about himself, be so kind as to make also.
- Reject all stereotypes of a look: you are a rag, but not the man; what to you, the woman to understand and td. Understand that the inner world does not depend on a sex of the person. Also the man can be vulnerable.
- Do not doubt the partner's problems. Time he asks you to listen to it, means it it concerns.
- Do not underestimate the partner's problem in comparison with the. ""What problems at you, here at me are problems, listen to me better!""
- Do not interrupt each other and do not humiliate. Your conversation not a dispute based on altercations and insults.
Pay attention!
- Sometimes the person who is not sharing your feelings becomes the reason of misunderstanding. Do not forget to estimate your relations objectively from time to time.
- Men are more often inclined to endure everything in themselves therefore more often the girl needs to take the first step. It is also the first step to be understood!