Having met darling in the life, people dream of that the flame of love burned eternally. But, unfortunately, most of lovers does not manage to keep ardent feelings. And over time the woman and the man who are once loving each other become each other strangers.
One of the frequent reasons of disappearance of love is the aspiration of one or both beloved everything to improve, including character and habits of already adult partner, without understanding that it is absolutely senseless. Any attempts to change the main traits of character of the partner represent moral personal violence. Naturally, it causes aggressive repulse and resistance and about any positive development of the relations there cannot be a speech.
In desire to overcome addictions of the second half the people quite often resist to quite acceptable qualities. The quarrel can break out even because, for example, one is more sluggish than another, and another reads behind a dining table, etc. Frequent cavils concerning these insignificant things cause the irritation capable to develop into hatred in both parties.
Everything will be differently if beloved understand at once that, bringing up each other, they kill love. Desire in itself to re-educate the partner means that he is not perceived as the worthy and unique person. However attempts of re-education of the partner – not the only reason of disappearance of love. It should be notedIt should be noted that the outcome of the further relations in many respects depends on what is sowed during the first hours acquaintances. Quite often in the aspiration to be pleasant the partner embellishes the portrait, begins to play some role, sometimes even hiding the real face. As a result of people falls in love with the created image. When the relations become serious, all created roles turn into a serious problem. The partner in love with an image of the second half, having faced the real face, can be disappointed. He will begin to understand that nearby there is not that person to whom there was an inclination earlier, and feels deceived. So with sincere feelings there is no trace left also. One more enemy of love – boredom in the relations which are initially warmed up by interest in the partner and feeling of novelty. Each meeting with darling is expected with impatience, and every instant communication is strongly appreciated. Over time everything becomes habitual, develops by standard rules, it becomes boring for partners. Only independent creativity will help to stir interest to each other. It is necessary to depart from stereotypes and to create the individual scenario of the relations. The love can destroy inability to sort out the relations. Negative emotions steadily accompany human essence, and it is impossible to feel constantly only delight in relation to the neighbor. The irritation from daredevil and unfriendly acts of the beloved is saved and develops into the conflict. One quarrel replaces another, and to the place of love the hostility comes. Here it is important not to save hostility, but also not to splash out it on the partner at once, without choosing expressions. It is necessary to calm down, seize anger and to soberly eliminate an indignation occasion. It is important to discuss quietly arising issues with darlings and to look for a compromise, to come to the agreement.