Happy and quiet life of children — here that is the most painful and formidable obstacle in a way to a divorce even if the married couple unanimously made such decision. How injuring will be the crash of family for the child and as the divorce of parents will affect in it — it has to be the main thing for adults who do not want to live more together.
If not to take such situations when there is no family, in effect, and as an example — the relations of spouses reached a deadlock, and the divorce will serve rather as a rescue for all participants of this process — a divorce always the tragedy. Even if people make to cross the decision on final break in relations quite adequate, kept good relations but which are not able through last offenses, to reconcile to boredom and conventionalism of family life.
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For the sake of children it is necessary to sacrifice much. Having become parents, the majority subordinates the life to the interests of the child. All now for the sake of it and its future. And personal happiness including. But one business to go to the unloved, but yielding good revenue work, and another is to live for years with the unloved person.
Even if the spouses who lost interest to each other, but made the decision to live together "for the sake of the child" managed to avoid transformation of the family house into "the ground of military operations", it is necessary to consider feelings of the child. Yes, he feels everything. "A game in silence", eternal reserved discontent of parents are not less heavy for the kid, than scandals and a divorce. A divorce of parents — a trauma for children, but whether so as far as it is considered to be? The main thing for the former spouses is to manage to understand that they forever remained close relatives and to divide the roles of the father and mother. It is important that the child understood that in spite of the fact that the father and mother live separately, he will always find love and support at both.
It is worth looking whether there is actually this family, or there were only two adults, irritating each other only with the look. Whether the child will be able to unite them, or it will be that chain which arrests the convict to the cart. And whether will accept the child a role of such "chain". Often for parental "for the sake of the child" own desire of spouses to keep the marriage disappears. Yes, there are no former feelings, but an alternative — loneliness or creation of the new relations which can be not better too, plus a habit, plus material welfare. For the sake of all this parents also stay together, assuring themselves and people around that it becomes only for the sake of children. The main thing is not to convince children that private life of parents was sacrificed their to "the happy childhood". But whether there will be an understanding that parents refused personal happiness for the sake of them, a bigger trauma for children, than a divorce? Especially as long to live without love very difficult, there can also come such moment when one of spouses is captured by not usual fatigue or desire of changes, and the true great love. Then all brakes and chains can not hold, and the divorce will be inevitable. For the sake of children it is worth doing everything possible not to keep marriage and visibility family, and to save and revive former love. But if it is impossible, then for the sake of children it is necessary to release each other towards to new happiness. The best that parents for the children can make — to be happy.