Many families pass a peculiar examination after emergence in the house of the kid. Months of pregnancy with their "delights" - process, already rather difficult for the man, and the young father waits that after the child's birth all whims blessed will remain in the past.
Not everything is so simple. At present the second stage of hormonal problems – a postnatal depression begins. To the man, there is not enough attention, love and caress, and women consciously discharge of themselves husbands, considering that the adult is able to take care of himself. Some consider that from now on their work as "wives" is finished, and it is necessary to plunge into education of children. On this soil of mutual misunderstanding the new conflicts erupt.
However you should not forget that the child needs both parents, and their relation to each other - the most important example of behavior for the little person. Therefore it is very important that parents agreed that is called "ashore". If during pregnancy the man understands that he after the child's birth at first will be the most difficult, and from it as from the head of the family, some victims will be required, then when time to refuse the entertainments comes, he will apprehend it as due, but not as aggressive expansion.
New mother also should acquire the fact that all difficulties are temporary only. And as they will be long, depends only on you. For preservation of the relations during the postnatal period you remember that your spouse also needs attention, as before, leave the kid with the grandmother or the nurse, find time each other. And yes, child undoubtedly important part of your life, but not central. You remember the health, the female requirements and give yourself this small joy. It will help not only to you to feel better, but also "will weaken a grasp" on the spouse.
Be not afraid to ask the husband about the help. Many young mothers face fear to entrust the precious child to the husband. But he (as well as you) masters this hard parental craft for the first time. Show it how to put the kid to bed, change a diaper, give all make-shifts necessary for this purpose and you go to beauty shop or even just take a bath. It and his child too, he values him as well as you, and if suddenly something goes not according to the plan, he it is obligatory to address you. Besides, between the father and the child has to the special connection which will awaken in him fatherly instincts and will help it to understand how it is difficult for you will be established. And how to all this to happen if you keep them at arm's length? The most important in this case - the correct approach. It is unlikely your spouse with pleasure will rush to help. The offer will begin to help with reproach or a claim that he does nothing and would make though something. Agree, support him by a tender word or a compliment.
The family is quite hard work, family with the small child – doubly. Help each other during this difficult period, your happiness with your hands!