Envy - one of the strongest sins which enslaves the person, doing it weak and defenseless. Unfortunately, most of people, at least once suffered it and envied. However it is not so simple to define the envious person among an inner circle. Therefore you need to study some cunnings which will allow to distinguish it.
Causes of envy
People quite often envy what is not enough for them and that they strongly would like to catch. The envy at most of people begins since childhood, and further already everything depends on character of the person. At first there is desire to have others toy, at more advanced age it develops into desire to put on also beautifully and stylish as the girlfriend (friend), further to earn as much how many the chief and also to have a rest the abroad, to have good family as at the neighbor, etc. Desires banal at first sight, represent envy.
After you cease to envy, you will be able easily to distinguish ill-wishers and envious persons.
Over time many people learn to mask this feeling, without having learned to get rid of it. And here wise people learn the truth which says "Accept everything as due". If you do not have something, and at the neighbor is, means and has to be. To everyone - the. If you very much want to possess something that other person has, the envy can be turned into the instrument of development and improvement of.
Cunnings of recognition of the envious person
Any envious person will not shout that he envies you. He will try as it is possible to hide the real feelings better. And only nonverbal signals - in other words, gestures - will surely disclose its essence. For this purpose it is rather simple to you to observe it. The blinked look and the "running" eyes. Not without reason say that eyes are a window to the soul. Having looked narrowly more attentively, you easily will understand how your interlocutor is located to you and as far as he with you is sincere. Wrinkles on a nose. If you noticed obliquely to a wrinkle nose back, then it direct proofs of that fact that your interlocutor tests to you unfriendliness, disgust and confusion. And these feelings - close relatives of envy. The first sign of envy - the feigned managed smile. To create a situation in which you will be able to check a smile just tell the interlocutor pleasant news, brag of the achievement. The counterfeit smile by all means will give it. Other sign of envy - the intense lower part of a stomach. During dialogue pay attention to a stomach of the interlocutor. If you noticed how his muscles in this part of a body strained, the stomach was slightly pulled in, and the trunk hardly bent forward, it is an occasion to think of what true feelings of your friend or acquaintance. Pay special attention to hands of your interlocutor. At strong emotions it is even difficult to experienced psychologist to control hands. When the person is overflowed by envy, he unconsciously begins to squeeze a hand in a fist. The unclenched brushes can be one more signal.
Before that to take these gestures into account, it is necessary to analyze them carefully. The interlocutor can just lower hands, before it having unclenched brushes or to accidentally take away a look aside. Be observant, drawing conclusions.
Except gestures on which it is possible to distinguish the envious person, remember that: - the person who constantly criticizes you or, on the contrary, too joyfully extols each your achievement, for certain has for you feeling of envy; - if the person, listening about your progress, does an indifferent look and shows all the behavior that it is uninteresting to it and it is boring, he also tries to hide the envy. Summing up the result of the aforesaid, the most reliable way of recognition of the envious person will be your intuition. More often to it listen and if in the company of some persons you feel discomfort, safely delete them from the life!