Any mom wants to become ideal for the children. Sources of such desires usually undertake from memoirs of the woman. The child wants to give happier childhood, than was at her. But in practice it is not so simple to accept opinion and a way of life of other person.
Instruction
1. Sort out from where the model of education of the child accepted by you undertook. Most likely, you carry out associations with the childhood. Whatever it was, reasonable desire will be to make life of the kid even better, even more happily. It is undoubtedly good purpose, but establish exact borders of educational measures. The extreme orientation on independence of the child or on excessive guardianship will only do much harm. Try to feel when your care is necessary and notice the moment after which it is important to it to begin to make independent decisions. Be not afraid that he will be mistaken. Acquisition of own, unique life experience is important for any person.
2. To what hackneyed this council did not seem, but put yourself to the place of the child. Be sincerely with yourself. Having thought, you will understand that is very offensive when do not accept the chosen point of view, do not divide hobby and impose not the necessary vital course. If you really want your child to be happy, let's live to him the life, to make the mistakes and to aspire to the dreams. Let he will grow up that whom actually wishes to become. And if you wanted to be a doctor, do not think that the same is necessary to him.
3. Better to understand the child, try to look at the world his eyes. It will perhaps demand your patience and attentiveness, but the result will not keep itself waiting. Try to understand why any given classes carried away it, penetrate into details, look narrowly better at his friends. They not necessarily bad, the child for some reason chose them. Think, probably and your companions not always suited parents. Remember the childhood in more detail, then it will become much simpler to understand the child and to make friends with it.