The longer people are in marriage, the more strong there have to be at them relations. But around the world it is possible to observe absolutely opposite picture: the long and strong unions – a rarity, strong and happy – are more often an exception, than the rule.
Instruction
1. Respect each other. It is possible to marry not on love or love over time will grow cold, but if between people there is a respect, then they will be able respectfully to behave, talk and arrive. The respect will help to smooth differences in your views and tastes and also will induce to make concessions and to care for the partner in life.
2. Consider requirements. Each person has preferences. Without what one is happy, another cannot represent lives. Therefore it is not necessary to change the spouse "under itself" - it is senseless, the adult is created and will not be able to be another. Besides similar attempts only pile on the agony in marriage, but do not contribute to happiness. Reconcile to priorities of the partner in life and accept them, and he will answer you with the same.
3. Do not carp. Constant remarks, causticities, councils and reproaches will inspire in your half feeling of otioseness and will destroy from within. If something does not suit you, then softly tell why and that you at the same time feel. Such approach will show your respect and the spouse will induce to consider your wishes and to be better.
4. Provide freedom. Whatever close the relations in marriage were, everyone has to have "the territory". It means that quite normally sometimes to have a rest separately and to spend free time in the pleasure. Also it includes such nuances how not to read the letters and messages addressed to the spouse, not to check his phone, a bag and pockets. It is unconditional that providing freedom means trust which each of spouses has to justify.
5. You praise and thank. The words of a praise will induce to do for you even more, and the gratitude will show that the made efforts are noticed and appreciated. And what else is necessary for the loving and careful person?!
6. Control emotions. Often in families all negative which is saved up in a day is splashed out, but it is wrong. Learn to express quietly the emotions that they did not intrude upon leisure of your half. Especially it is important to remember it to women as their dejectedness oppresses men – they feel the insolvency and guilty for your state. Do not assume that they felt similar.