At quarrels and scandals of the reasons and occasions a set, but, as a rule, except the spoiled mood, mutual insults and offenses and also unnecessary precipitate words, they do not lead to anything good, and their consequences can become destructive at all. Therefore the most reasonable that can be made if you became witness or unfortunately, the participant of a quarrel is to prevent it.
Instruction
1. First of all, the refusal of a quarrel as method of the solution of problems has to be your vital principle. If you understand that in quarrels never you will prove nobody anything, then you already subconsciously prevent the conflict.
2. If you not absolutely like what is told by your partner, do not hurry to answer. Think of the reasons of such actions, put yourself to the place of the interlocutor and try to understand. Do not begin to criticize him, expressing the discontent that it did not become a reason for a quarrel.
3. If you became silent, and the interlocutor apprehended it as your capitulation in a dispute, you should not dissuade him from it until it cools down and will perceive your words quietly.
4. It is possible that having thought, you will find the wrongfulness in some situation. In this case quietly recognize it, and you "strangle" the conflict in a germ.
5. When your interlocutor tells something the angry tone, try not to kill it. Quietly listen. So arising quarrel can pass into more constructive course.
6. In case you understand that your partner grumbles and just "runs" into scandal, "disconnect" the ears. Without having found the fertile field for incitement of a quarrel, he, perhaps, will calm down or will find for himself some other business.
7. Do not "run" into a quarrel any remarks if you see that the person "not in himself", something is upset or angry.
8. Feeling that the verbal sparring can get out of hand, change a topic of conversation. Try to talk quietly and deliberately, without shout and the increased tones.
9. Agree with all arguments of the angry person, do not argue. The best exit in this situation – your smile (only without sarcasm!) and benevolent intonation. If the person is enraged and is not going to stop a quarrel, quietly leave the room, but try not to slam the door and not to tell something superfluous "as the curtain fell".
10. Leave on fresh air or go to somebody on a visit. Change of a situation well on you will work if, of course, you do not continue to scroll in mind an unpleasant situation and the more so, to tell about it to someone to another.
11. In the family conflicts very often the quarrel is prevented by good sex. If it is your situation, act! Also do not quarrel.