Practically any family is not insured from treason. Sometimes it seems that it is impossible to overcome inclination to other person, and many give in to momentary passion. But sometimes for the decision it is necessary to pay too high price, and the inconsiderate act can lead to a divorce and long years of regrets and torments. What pushes the person on treason whether it is possible to prevent it?
Of course, sometimes the love really leaves the relations between spouses and it makes sense to consider the possibility of parting seriously. But how not to confuse passion and nothing meaning inclination with a call which demonstrates that time cardinally came to change the life?
Why people change
Very often the husband or the wife begin to show interest in other people at those moments when the family endures crisis. Crises of three and seven years, the birth of the child and "a syndrome of an empty nest" when children leave the parental house belong to the main tests through which there passes almost any family and begin adult independent life. During crisis the family system has to reach new level, and the husband and the wife - to find the new depth of the relations. But any crisis is not only a step forward, but also heartrending psychological experience during which all saved-up problems emerge, and sometimes it seems that it is simpler to refuse fight and just to create the new affair with other person. For this reason when the family endures crisis, there can be an intention to start life with a clean slate.
But such behavior is wrong, the abandoning the family often is not a solution, and represents a way to refuse the dropped-out test. Therefore in the new relations the risk of repetition of the same scenario is high - at the first difficulties of people will just look for the next partner and to start everything anew.
Treason because of monotony of family life
The passion for another can sometimes arise as reaction to monotonous sexual life in marriage or because of a discrepancy of sexual temperaments of spouses. If cordial relations reign in family, and the husband and the wife completely trust each other, then such problem has to be solved by pronunciation of mutual expectations and readiness to meet requirements of the partner. Otherwise, for example, if one of spouses considers problems of another usual whims and cavils, the risk is high that the unsatisfied partner will try to find sexual satisfaction on the party.
How not to change and keep from temptation
In case one of spouses begins to feel insuperable passion and desire to change the second half it is necessary to analyze the reasons of such aspiration carefully. Perhaps, the husband wants to relax and have a rest from the problems which collected in connection with recent emergence in family of the child? Or one of spouses does not want any experiments in a bed, and the second constantly feels unsatisfied? At the same time the true reason of desire to change will be the feeling which did not arise on the party, and banal fatigue or inability to listen to the loved one. If at this moment to realize the intentions, then the risk is high to destroy family, and it will be already impossible to correct something in the future.
Knowing what pushes the person on treason, it is possible to keep marriage, love and family happiness, without hurting anybody.