There is an opinion that each person is allocated from the birth with talent. Only some people have this talent such is that time for it did not come yet (the sphere where it could prove most brightly, is not opened yet) or already passed. Anyway, it is necessary to look for, try or maybe even to create independently the industry which as you feel, is your calling.
How to learn the calling?
Everything is very individual. Psychologists, trying to help seniors to be defined in life, in particular, offer such way (it can quite be suitable also for the mature person). It is necessary to write down not less than 30 points on a leaf, than you most of all like to be engaged in life. Even trifles will approach. It is possible to strike affairs in which you are engaged occasionally, on mood and also those to which you would not like to devote all life off the list. Further it is necessary to make one more list, where to write out many strengths. At each person is them really much, it is worth listening to himself. After both lists are made, it is worth comparing them to understand what your strengths and favourite affairs best of all correspond each other. The more options it will turn out, the better.
Before learning the calling, many people should pass a serious way. Therefore in life it is worth thinking of a question of the place as soon as possible. Though 40 years — too not term.
What needs to be overcome before finding the calling?
- Conventions. Search of the calling will be extremely complicated until you listen to a valuable advice of people around. It is clear, that parents, spouses, friends and colleagues do not bear you the malice and with all the heart make recommendations of in what it is better for you to be engaged. However, only you can feel up to the end. Others hopes and silent censures very strongly disturb in this case, but on the way to self-determination they should be ignored. How to understand where there is the calling and where — the installations adopted from other people? If the person strives for the goal to become very best (the richest, beautiful, clever), that is, is guided only by feeling of own importance in the opinion of people around, then, in most cases, similar aspirations are a psychological mask. The purpose, perhaps, will also be reached, but the feeling of internal emptiness will remain. The real calling does not depend on comparison of with people around in any way. Only the internal feeling of harmony or its absence matters.
- Certainly, in search of calling, it is necessary to test in different affairs. However, the chaotic perebeganiye from place to place to try at once everything, is not productive. Business it is necessary to understand, come at first to result to learn whether it is yours. If after achievement of result of doubt do not disappear, it is possible to try something else.
- The person can consider own views and a view of things only true. In practice there is a huge set of various points of view. If search of calling dragged on, perhaps, it is worth changing a situation and a circle of contacts, to try to be beyond normality, to reconsider those values to which treated with contempt or haughtily earlier. This work, perhaps, one of the most difficult for the person who looks for the way.
- It is one of the main reasons for which people do not want to try something new and are trampled down on one place, only dreaming of finding favourite business.
It is possible to look for the calling in only one way — tests and mistakes. The more things in life it will be tried, the it is more than chances that sooner or later the person will find himself. To theorize in this sense it is useless. How the person defines that he found the calling? Criterion only one: the chosen way has to bring joy. It will fill with ease and light from within, without leaving emptiness and occasions to reflect: And whether I found the calling in life, maybe, it is necessary to try something else?.