Encouragement and approval for worthy acts play a considerable role in education of children. It is necessary to distinguish and point to positive aspirations to the child in time, then it is not necessary to apply punishment in other time. The infinite reminder to the child about his shortcomings involves decrease in a self-assessment and commitment to something.
In time the told word of support and approval helps to feel to the child ""wings behind the back"". Children are suited thus: next time to hear the words of a praise, they will seek for repetition of the acts which caused a positive response. Encouragement, undoubtedly, has to be not causeless, and for something. At abuse of insignificant achievements of it collects very much that the child gets used to them, ceasing to appreciate them.
Some parents pay off with the children real money in exchange for good behavior or an act. Such children lose over time an initiative to do something just like that ""by kindness sincere"". The correct behavior has to become for the child habitual, but not highly paid.
In some situations for censure of inadequate behavior at the child it is necessary to resort to punishment. It is obvious that corporal punishments offend children, but today it becomes more difficult to senior generation to bring up the worthy member of future society. When mom with dad are round the clock busy with getting of ""daily bread"", children sometimes are provided to themselves that results in permissiveness and children's dissoluteness. To parents does not get either time, or forces to penetrate into the child's problems. The easiest to choose a fist or a belt for education, but consequences can be by no means hard. Not therefore whether there are more and more angry, cynical and heartless people around?
For the instruction on negative acts of the child it is possible to use restriction of satisfaction of desires of the kid: will lock uses of the computer for a certain time, refusal in purchase of a desired thing and other. In certain cases the instructions of parents on inadmissibility of actions of their children help. The remark which is authoritatively told by dad sometimes has positive influence. But only in case the told words do not gain effect of ""the worn-out plate"".