Very often parents shout at children apropos and without cause. But whether it is possible to bring up younger generation thus? Whether the relations between parents and children will improve if constantly to shout at them?
Margaret Thatcher told very correct words: "If you have to prove the authority to others, so you have no it". When you shout, lose prestige on eyes of the child and show it the weakness. Sometimes, of course, it is worth shouting at children, but the main thing with what emotions you do it, and for what reason.
Very often, especially it concerns mothers, they shout at the child because they were tired, are upset with something, and through shout splash out the emotions. However, the child very often does not understand for what reason began to shout at him.
Boys and girls need to be brought up differently. The father has to impart to future man the main male qualities, one of them is an ability to control the emotions. This quality will allow it to achieve success in life. Without this quality, close people will even indulgently treat it.
If the girl does not understand from where different emotions undertake and that with them to do, then she drives herself into the real trap of fears and complexes. The girl - future mother, she will also raise the children.
Parental shout makes children diffident and in the forces, does their mentality unstable. The parent is the chief defender in the opinion of the child and when this defender shouts at them, children do not know what to do.
To cope with the bad mood which escapes in shout the control over itself is necessary. If you cannot control the emotions, break on shout, then it is necessary to explain at least to the child that you shout at it not because it bad but because he made something wrong. If you cannot restrain, then it is possible to ask the child to remind you that it is bad to shout. These are will protect the child from your shout a little, plus it will adjust interrelation.
Most often mom therefore it is necessary to restore maternal forces by the known ways of a raising of female energy shouts. Allocate time for yourself, do favorite thing, you descend on massage. Include humour in the life and education. When you want to shout at the child, change a rough word for a joke.
Children very well feel mood. Therefore it is important to explain to the child that you feel not really well. If you respect the child, listen to his opinion, his words, then and your words which go from the heart reach it much quicker. Remember that the words of abuse will very strongly wound the child.