Disobedient and uncontrollable children are usually called difficult. Quite often the reasons of such behavior consider hereditary predisposition, bad influence of the company and other factors. Actually these children especially sensitive and vulnerable natures. Difficult they become when get under influence of life circumstances, reacting to them is stronger, than other children.
Instruction
1. Numerous whims and obstinacy of such children cause attacks of anger and irritability in parents. Not to make the difficult child of the fidget, you never say to him in the course of education that you do not love it. The American psychologists claim that to say aloud a phrase about dislike for the child, means to recognize the parental insolvency.
2. At any bad acts let the child know that you love him. Kind of you wanted to change his behavior, positive changes are possible only if you are with it adherents. You say that you love it, but consider its any actions inadmissible.
3. Avoid to call him silly and lazy and also not corresponding to the age. Thereby you will cause in him offense and feeling of humiliation. Criticize only for bad behavior, but not for intolerable character. Otherwise it will take a defensive position and it will be impossible to agree with it.
4. Periodically put yourself to the place of the child, so it will be easier for you to understand motives of his behavior. Realize that your child - the personality and though he and has problems, sometimes it is necessary not to interfere and give him an opportunity most to understand them.
5. However it does not mean that everything is permitted to it, the child dolzht accurately it to understand. Formulate rules of conduct and the wishes. The diplomacy needs to be shown both in infantile, and at teenage age. Talk in language available to it, but you do not press on it at all. Both in 5, and in 15 years the child can answer such pressure with a protest and disobedience. It is strictly necessary to demand only observance of safety rules.
6. Analyze the state. Probability of transformation of the obedient kid into the difficult child is higher at those parents whose relationship in family is deprived of mutual respect. Excessive negative emotions also influence the child. If coming home, you violently are indignant concerning a quarrel with the administration or show discontent with other working moments, the child can be frightened and not understand that your negative does not concern to it. He kind of "tries on" your emotional state on himself. Quite often such children consider themselves responsible for bad mood of parents and if such situations often repeat, the kid can become at first closed, and subsequently - eternally protesting difficult child.