If it came to gaining trust of the child, perhaps, ahead of you wait for several battles. Small it will be battles or big, long or short — entirely depends on you. In parental life happens differently. To some parents the love and trust of the child grow and get stronger day by day since the birth. At other parents and children the mutual feelings undergo frequent testing. The trust is feeling too, and the check price is very high here.
What requires trust?
Without trust it is impossible. In any way. If near you there is a child who does not trust you, he is in danger. He will be forced to study the world around himself and to study on the mistakes. Here he can commit many follies and to you will get. Do you want to make the child similar to you, it is better than you, to help it to reach what dreamed of, but for some reason could not? All this is possible only through trust.
What to begin with?
To gain trust of the child it will turn out only with a sincere heart. Children very thinly feel falseness. This, likely, only condition of gaining trust which suits all. For the rest all have all differently.
What should I do?
Look, listen to your child. What does he love that it is interesting to it that it is interesting to it in you? Most likely, to it it is uninteresting that on you high responsibility for the fate of people or just for keeping of family lies. Well, same quite naturally that you are engaged in something in life for the sake of money, for the sake of career, for the sake of own pleasure, at last. Recognition of it can be considered, likely, the second condition of gaining trust which suits all.
Make or promise the child to make that it is interesting to him. And having promised, surely execute. So repeatedly, and it is better not to stop at all.
Recruit the child in the affairs. It is awfully interesting to children. If it is impossible to give it really responsible task then pretend that it does something necessary and important. And surely estimate work and diligence of the child. The joy of fair assessment of the contribution to the common cause will surely lift trust to you, will induce the child to look for more and more your society and attention. If the child made something not so – nothing, tell, as at first it was impossible to you.
What to be most?
Be consecutive in the affairs and acts. Children perfectly remember who and that both when did and that at the same time told. And what at the same time gave to acts and a talk importance. And when another time you will make on the contrary, the trust to you will absolutely or partially be gone. "And, you never know he told there. He has always all differently. He does not know as it is necessary".
Believe, the feeling of trust between parents and children gives surprising joy.