Whether happy parents at whom the child would never be capricious exist? Likely, no. The peak of children's whims is the share of age of 3 - 5 years, just for that time when the child for the first time realizes himself the personality, for the first time uses in relation to itself a pronoun "I".
Whims affect weak children's mentality negatively. Children's psychologists even consider that the more often the child is capricious, the more slowly there is his development. Therefore the capricious child should be called as soon as possible to order. Here only, how to make it? Everything will depend on the reason of whims, and it is very important to define this reason correctly.
Perhaps, something hurts the child, but as he still very small, cannot understand that it disturbs him, he just feels uncomfortablly. Sharp change of behavior, excessive activity or, on the contrary, passivity usually testifies to the beginning disease. Talk to the child, ask whether the stomach or a throat hurts him. Certainly, any whims in this case unconditionally say goodbye.
The child can use whims and as a way of drawing attention to. There is it when he ceases to feel your love when the parents occupied with important and urgent matters have no time even to talk to the kid.
Think of the behavior: perhaps, shouts and crying – the only way for the child to make so that mom with dad at last noticed it.
You should not forget that sometimes children roll up a hysterics to force parents to grant their any desires. If already once such way worked, the child will surely apply it again, gradually turning into the little despot. In this case it is necessary to stop any attempts of dictatorship immediately: do not pay attention to the kid, go about the own business, even without looking in his party. When the child feels that whims do not bring desirable result, he will calm down. Wait that the capricious child completely calmed down, and quietly explain that such behavior he will achieve nothing.
But there are cases when whims – a way of a protest against excessive guardianship. Most often children whose parents adhere to too strict principles of education resort to such method to prove the right to own opinion, demand from the child of unconditional submission. Think whether you abuse the power whether you try to turn the child into the weak-willed being capable only to execute orders. And if it so – urgently change the behavior, for the present everything can be corrected.