What can be finer than the first love? Probably, these feelings will not be compared with any others. Most often the first love happens at school, these are the first experiences, the first pleasant emotions, etc. Each child has to endure it, the love teaches kindness and understanding that it is important for any person. Parents always worry about the child during this period, it is so easy to damage fragile mentality of the child, there is a wish to save it from excess frustration, to give a practical advice, etc. But very often parents make serious mistakes which lead to emergence of misunderstanding between them and the child and also to serious offenses. Such widespread mistakes exists a little.
Instruction
1. What is told most often by parents to the child when they learn that he fell in love? Of course, the fact that for the relations there did not come time yet and it is necessary to think of study, but not of the antiput field. But only such bans will not lead to anything good. As a rule, the first feelings arise during hormonal reorganization, at this time children become more sensitive and sharply react to any words in the address, and the similar statements of parents can lodge in them a huge number of complexes, around schoolmates and peers enjoy the first love. Because of such bans the teenager and parents cannot just have trusting relationship. Extremely important during this period to communicate with the child as the adult, to trust it, not to try to resist to his feelings, and to understand on the contrary them, to give a practical advice and to be for it the best friend. The first love can and will pass, but the gratitude to parents precisely will remain.
2. Mothers of girls, and sometimes and boys, most of all are afraid that because of the first love children can make serious mistakes, up to unwanted pregnancy. Therefore parents often threaten the child that will be locked his house that it did not do nonsenses. But only it is not a way out, and on the contrary its aggravation. That the child did not make rash acts, it is necessary to be able to talk to him frankly, it is necessary to avoid half-words. In the course of the conversation it is necessary to focus attention on what the parent trusts it and it is confident that he will do exclusively right thing.
3. The sexual subject - is rather serious, many parents hesitate of it and for this reason there are further extremely undesirable situations. And in sex there is nothing shameful, it is necessary to shame because of it the child, it is necessary to explain to it that sex is a normal phenomenon, it is only necessary to decide on it only with very loved one and only after careful consideration as it is extremely serious.
4. It is not necessary to criticize the choice of the child. First, he all the same will not obey parents even if as a result they will be right. Secondly, parents in that case will look the real enemies in the opinion of the teenager, respectively, on good relations it is not necessary to count.
5. It is very important to behave competently in the course of growing of the child as what relations will develop further as far as the child will trust mom and dad depends on it, to listen to them. You should not forbid too much the child as teenagers always perceive the bans in bayonets, it is necessary to be wiser and to look for approach to the child.