Most often this habit is shown at the time of laying: the small child winds mother's hair on a finger, touches, pulls or even uproots. Such behavior can irritate and cause to mom pain. Why does that happen?
What reasons force the child to squeeze mother's hair
Quite often happens that the small child by all means needs to play with mother's hair to calm down and fall asleep. And if to take away from him the desirable, he begins to be angry and capricious, going on any cunning to reach a head of hear. Psychologists see the following motives of such behavior: perhaps, the child lacks attention and tactile proximity with parents, something disturbs him and disturbs, or he thinks that he thus affirms the property right to mom.
But there is also other explanation: all cubs of primacies instinctively grab hair of a female, moving, being warmed or avoiding thus danger. And women are deprived of wool long ago, but the instinct of small children still provokes them to grab mother's hair.
Grabbing mom hair or biting her, the kid can just "experiment" with causing pain, watching reaction. It is necessary at once to let it know that it is not pleasant to you, and patiently to stop such tests.
How to struggle with similar behavior of the child
Supporters of soft methods of education can advise to leave everything as it is and just to suffer. However the habit of the kid to squeeze mom for hair can be fixed and if it is unpleasant to mom, hardly she has to suffer it, following the tastes of the child. Children constantly check borders of permitted and can far come in the claims and acts, and it will be already hard to fight with with firmness the created addiction. Universal ways to eradicate a habit of the child to pull mom hair, suitable everything, do not exist. It is possible to try softly, but to surely take away the child's hand from the hair. As the option is to braid hair in a tail or a bunch, to put on a kerchief or a hat. Perhaps, enough strokings to relax and fall asleep will be a lullaby of a song, rockings and the baby.
Offer the child replacement to mother's hair – a soft toy, a doll or silk fabric. It will help you to understand that is not enough for the kid: parental proximity or certain tactile feelings.
Sometimes offer "in the educational purposes" to pull the child's hair in reply that he understood that it is unpleasant. However this lesson can be in vain and entail absolutely other outcome: showing undesirable behavior which adults would like to prevent, they send to the child the contradictory signal confusing. It is better to be after all sincere in expression of feelings and not to cause in the baby of cognitive dissonances even if it is necessary to explain to it several times that it is unpleasant to you. It is also important not to break at the same time on roughness, shout or irritation.