Codependence at alcoholism is the special psychological state peculiar to close relatives or friends of the person sick with alcoholism. Codependence - a family disease, mothers, fathers, wives and husbands of alcoholics can plunge into the problems connected with dependence close, expensively to the person completely. Such people do not even realize that gradually and the resistant, terrible dependence comes to their life – from a disease.
Codependence symptoms
It is worth recognizing that manifestations of codependence in our country are more peculiar to women – sacrificial, loving, forgiving … Here main signs of codependence:
- life of the sozavisimy person becomes completely dependent on a condition of the patient;
- own interests, problems, hobbies, work – everything recedes into the background, the help to the alcoholic becomes meaning of life;
- time of a thought of pathological addiction of the relative or the friend, darling so seize consciousness that begin to dominate completely;
- wives of alcoholics and addicts often forget even about children, parents, they find a peculiar pleasure in own tortures.
Signs of codependence
The following manifestations of crisis are usually peculiar to the Sozavisimy person: the increased uneasiness, emotional violations, a depression, feeling of hopelessness, hope for wonderful healing of the alcoholic, inability and frequent to find unwillingness effective methods, social isolation of all family.
Many scientists believe that both at chemical dependence, and at codependence the destroying behavior takes place. Often such person the inadequate actions does not promote recovery of the patient at all. The Sozavisimy relative is sometimes inclined to diminish sharpness of problems of the loved one, he actually loses control and over his behavior, and over own. Treatment of codependence for the alcoholic often demands serious intervention of the competent psychotherapist.
Overcoming codependence – process difficult and long. Actually this problem – a disease of all family, its main symptom. If you realize that are sick, do not hesitate, ask for the help, release from codependence – long process. The system of narcological and psychological assistance has to include both treatment of dependence on alcohol, and disposal of codependence – the help will be necessary to all!
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