Young couples are often not ready to household problems which become occasions of family quarrels on trifles. It is not necessary to spoil to itself mood such troubles, it is possible to fight against them very effectively.
Quarrels - an inevitable component of family life
The young married couple should realize the fact that completely to avoid the conflicts and quarrels it will not turn out. Sooner or later all of them equally arise as the person can argue and clash even with himself. It is only necessary to learn quickly and whenever possible without serious consequences to overcome them.
How to behave if the conflict already happened
If the quarrel already happened, keep calm. Try to inform accurately and clearly of the point of view, it is obligatory without obscene curses and insults. Having supported a quarrel, you not only do not convince the partner in the to correctness, but only aggravate a situation.
During the conflict first of all try to suppress anger and to calm down. Otherwise you can break and finally quarrel with the partner. If your character is more reserved and quiet, than at the spouse/spouse, try not to begin quarrels independently. If you want to ask about something the partner in everyday life, do it not mandative by tone, and in the form of a request. Tell about the state during the conflicts and about the feelings. Describe how you were tired of quarrels and you ask for help. For certain the partner will calm down and will agree to make what you ask without scandal. If the dispute developed into a quarrel, it is not necessary to throw mutual reproaches and insults, just describe what forces you to accept such point of view. If you want to buy something, and your half against, it is not necessary to reproach in reply the partner what he spends much too. Try to explain why you want to buy something, describe advantages of this thing, its advantage to you. If on the partner it did not work, keep calm and continue to insist. Eventually the partner, seeing your unshakable tranquility and confidence, will be tired to argue with you and will agree. If the spouses/spouse all the same persist, try to acquit him. Tell that you understand its feelings and you know that to him it is heavy too. After that again softly repeat the request. Even if not you will win the conflict, it is better to argue peacefully, than to row and be a step closer to destruction of family. If you feel that the easy quarrel on trifles will develop into scandal soon, suggest to put a conversation away for later. Directly tell the partner that you do not want to continue the conflict and that both of you need to solve a situation peacefully. Try to offer the compromise suiting all. Do not hurry and give to a half all the time to consider. In turn listen to compromise option of the partner. Perhaps, it is worth agreeing to it. The compliment in the middle of the dispute will become big surprise for the husband/wife. Instead of already invalid offers to reconcile you can tell that you do not want to lose such magnificent discooter and the ardent speaker. The delicate hint affects an immediate joint visit of cinema or cafe effectively too. During the skirmishes always you monitor the speech. Do not allow emergence of angry notes in a voice and too wide gestures. Your ice tranquility will make quarrels senseless and next time will precisely stop too hot partner from inflating of the conflict from small trouble.