Not always happens so that own family is that smooth water where it is possible to take cover from everyday storms. If one of spouses skillfully manipulates another, then the second needs to learn not to give in on provocation. Most often the manipulator behaves so, feeling for itself guilty therefore it needs to cause scandal of which both will be guilty, but not to recognize the mistake.
Instruction
1. One of the most popular receptions of the manipulator – provocation. Using it, he seeks to cause inadequate reaction which will allow it to reach more advantageous position. Stock up with patience and be unshakably quiet. In response to provocation ask to concretize a situation and to give examples of what you are accused of. Specify when it was and as occurred. Detailed analysis will already lower heat degree.
2. Many manipulators like to operate by the principle "The fool" or "Look at yourself". These phrases are applied when it is necessary to discourage the person and to switch him to themselves, to search of the fault. It leads to the fact that you leave from the main, initial topic of conversation and begin to remember when it was, to justify oneself and explain the acts. Try not to digress, firmly tell that you discuss your shortcomings later, and now you wait for explanations on the matter.
3. Strong reception of manipulators is countercharge which is obviously unfair and it is even absurd. From surprise you immediately begin to find out from what it is your interlocutor took and when it was. Everything, the end – now the conversation is completely devoted to examination that it is a lie, and you also are forced to justify youselves. As well as in the previous case, control yourself and as soon as you hear such phrase switch, turn to it a deaf ear or promise to discuss this case later. Be sure that after the conversation this subject will not be brought up any more.
4. Sometimes the reason of provocation to become aggression which it is simple there is nobody to splash out. If your spouse came back home in such state, do not give in on provocation – in scandal there are no winners. Use the known reception of "psychological aikido". Return the last accusatory phrase, agreeing with it. It can be even unfair, then it is possible to demand apologies, but at this moment your task is to avoid the family conflict.