Not always the mother-in-law can become the good girlfriend and the tutor for the daughter-in-law. There are several types of mothers-in-law at whom it almost is necessary to take offense. There are several councils helping to find a common language or at least to avoid the conflict with mother of the husband.
Instruction
1. You treat all events with humour. Present that everything that occurs between you and the mother-in-law is only a part of the banal comedy movie in which you play major roles. About yourself laugh both at yourself, and at it.
2. If the mother-in-law without your permission made changes to an interior of your apartment or ironed the husband's things – perfectly. You do not treat it as to infringement of your territory. Relax and derive pleasure from this help.
3. If the mother-in-law begins to criticize you, try to switch her attention to something another. For example, call children and ask them to read the poem learned for her. Parry its attacks a friendly smile.
4. Remember that confrontation will not lead to anything good. The mother-in-law, most likely, will report to the son that you offend her. Therefore splash out the collected offenses somewhere on the party. Play sports, for example.
5. Try to spend with the mother-in-law more time alone. Walk on the park, you go to theater or to shop. Let it know that you can become girlfriends.
6. If the mother-in-law is ready frankly hostilely, ask her directly in what you do not suit it. Explain to her that you love her son and wish him the best. The main thing - do it quietly, without aggression not to provoke the mother-in-law to insults and not to aggravate a situation.
7. Be patient and do not expect instant results. Sometimes, to win arrangement of the mother-in-law and not to take offense at her, many years are required.
8. Remember that for many years your husband was in the center of other woman – his mothers. It is possible when you have children, you will understand what moves your mother-in-law and what fear she feels, knowing that in life of her son there was other woman who can minimize his communication with mother. Therefore you should not take offense at the mother-in-law and to enter with her the conflict, she has every chance to destroy your relations with the husband. You do not know whose party it will accept in a conflict situation between you and the mother-in-law.