"He is a true friend!" - so speak about the person on whom it is always possible to rely, who will always come to the rescue. And at the same time does not wait for anything in exchange, even the words of gratitude. About such friendship legends since ancient times went, it was sung by masters of an art word. How it is necessary to behave to acquire the right to be called the good friend?
Instruction
1. First of all take for the rule: to treat yourself more strictly and more exactingly, than people whom you consider as the friends. It is very hard, but it is necessary. Some people own shortcomings and mistakes treat far more indulgently, than strangers (the famous bible parable about a mote and a log speaks about it), and result from misunderstanding, disagreement, a quarrel. Be able to forgive mistakes and weaknesses of the friend.
2. At the same time you remember that any condescension has a limit. If, in your opinion, the friend arrived unworthy, or is ready to make a serious mistake which will do much harm to it, frankly tell about it. The debt of the true friend is to warn against danger. Certainly, try not to use too categorical, mandative tone at the same time.
3. Be ready to listen at any time to the friend, to render him the feasible help: council, money, personal participation. You can also address it for council or the help, but try not to abuse its friendly attitude towards you. It should not turn into a system. Your friend has enough own cares and efforts.
4. Be able to keep secrets. If the friend entrusted you any secret, do not disclose it even in a circle of the closest people. Do not discuss its problem, feature of character, do not gossip about it even for fun.
5. It is very important to be tactful, not "to climb in soul". Alas, some close friends can begin to behave too familiarly, on the verge of tactlessness, and it threatens with quarrels and the conflicts. Respect personal space of the friend. However if you see that he is obviously upset, anxious with something, surely take an interest in what business and whether you can help.
6. If for any reason you quarreled, do not put fault on your friend. Objectively and impartially estimate own behavior, try to understand in what there was a cause of a quarrel. Even if it seems to you that you are not guilty of anything, try to go the first for reconciliation. The true friendship should be valued!