Any person is unique. Therefore, even being in the company of friends, everyone wants not to merge with a lump, and to be identity. Even if the person at heart pronounced conducted sometimes bothers it such modest role, he wants to be allocated on the general background, to become soul of the company.
Instruction
1. There is a lot of ways to be allocated in the company, both quite reasonable, and very extravagant, on the verge of shocking. To what of them to resort – prompts to each person reason and education, idea of decencies, of what is admissible and that is not present.
2. It is better not to forget about sense of proportion and reasonable care after all. For example, if the guy tries to be allocated on the general background with some risky trick, or will build a hairstyle - a mohawk, it will hardly speak well for it. More likely, will visually show his levity and limitation.
3. First of all he is sober, impartially estimate the abilities and opportunities: in what you undoubtedly surpass the companions in the company and what you concede in. Compare yourself to the informal leader of the company, try to understand what his qualities draw attention of people. Think, respectively, what your qualities can promote promotion from a shadow.
4. Do not try to alter the nature, character. Be oneself. In behavior the naturalness, ease is very important. Try to derive benefit from own abilities. You are able to play the guitar, to sing – even if at very average amateur level? Great! Own bard is necessary to the company very opportunely, especially, at sorties on the nature. You are sharp on language, are able to tell ridiculous stories, jokes? So overcome shyness, you will show the ability! It will be estimated properly.
5. If you have an analytical mentality, then nothing prevents you to play a role of the wise adviser. Which will be able always to prompt the best decision, an exit from a tangled life situation. And it, certainly, will allocate you on the general background, your authority will raise.
6. Well, and how to be in case you do not possess anything from above-mentioned advantages? And here it is not necessary to be upset. Not everything to be leaders. After all, as conducted there is nothing nasty, reprehensible at all. Here it is only important not to forget about a measure, not to allow that to you manipulated.