To be parents of two sons – not only great happiness, but also heavy responsibility. Often two boys are twice more than bruises, fights and quarrels. Not to allow hostility between brothers and to grow up from sons of real men, parents need to put a lot of effort.
Instruction
1. When in the house there is one more boy, the senior child subconsciously feels that it not main for parents. The kid who still quite recently was a king in the family can instantly feel that you do not love him as before. It is necessary to explain to the boy that your attitude towards him was not changed that it is important for you. Explain to the child that he has now a brother whom it has to preserve.
2. You halve the attention. Looking after the younger son, never forget about the senior. Otherwise he can grow up diffident because it was "nedolyubit". Do not force children to be jealous you to each other.
3. If the second sonny still absolutely small, you ask the senior to help you. Cultivate in it responsibility for the new family member. You praise the son for manifestation of care and tenderness in relation to the brother.
4. Bringing up two sons, cultivate in them family spirit. You grow in boys of men, defenders of the family, getters. Hold up to them as an example their own father.
5. Quarrels and the conflicts which arise generally because of toys or attention of mother need to be resolved "on the place". Never leave extreme one of sons. If you made it time, then another … so the boy can think that he is a derelict or the unloved child and by that, will become reserved.
6. If kids often swear, teach them to reach compromise, to make concessions, to share, eventually. It is necessary to work in such situations objectively. The main thing that none of children felt restrained.
7. You teach children to do everything together: to clean up, walk, play, to watch animated films. Try to impart to them feeling of relationship, love and attachment to each other. They have to know that closer they have nobody therefore brothers are obliged to protect each other and not to throw at a difficult moment.
8. Do not impose one what is pleasant to another. If, for example, one of brothers likes to draw, it does not mean, as the second has to be engaged in the same. Look narrowly at the children. If one kid wants to watch cartoons, let watch cartoons. And the second wishes to mold from plasticine – give it plasticine. Your sons are not obliged to be identical. They are persons whose needs need to be respected.
9. Never hold up one child as an example to another. Comparison according to the "Sasha the Good Fellow, and You Are Not Present" type can negatively affect psychological development of the humiliated child. From such comparisons the scolded kid will grow up the uncertain closed personality, and at "favourite" the disrespect for weak will develop.
10. Bringing up sons, give to them the equal rights and duties. If both of them have to remove before going to bed toys into place, none of them mean should not shirk. Of course, choosing such model of education, consider age and possibilities of kids. Do not abuse the baby for the scattered things only on the fact that it, for example, is too small, and is not in time for the senior brother.