Two loving and beloveds, two hostesses, two mothers – everyone is right in return – for some reason divide one man. And roles at them different: one – the wife, another – mother. Eternal fight between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is as infinite as fight of fathers and children, and likewise does not make any sense. Only pulls down families, breaks destinies, leaving people lonely and sick. Whether two women can find a common language - the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law? Yes, sure. It is only necessary to want very much it and to try to do everything correctly.
Instruction
1. Often leaving in marriage girl or woman is already programmed on the hated mother-in-law owing to various circumstances. And without everyones on that the reasons they do not love the husband's mother at once, without knowing her character, intentions, the attitude towards themselves yet. And what for? Try to see in it the woman, mother, the reflection. She should not throw oneself on the neck with words: "Mother!". Just know that she loves the son, and it is normal.
2. It is not necessary to hide from it children, without releasing them on a visit to the grandmother, or to find one thousand reasons owing to which it cannot arrive to your house (and all only because you are afraid to hear from it excess remarks). She has full legal authority to communication with grandsons and if wants to help about the house or something to prompt, she is more skilled, iskushenny in economic affairs, – there is nothing in it terrible, its intentions goodhearted even if and you will not tell it at first sight (she looks narrowly at you too). Have the strong opinion (but not obstinacy) about any given things in household affairs.
3. You do not reproach the husband if he is going to spend days off at mother to repair an electrical wiring or to dig up a kitchen garden. Go all together, offer also the feasible help. Will refuse – you sit, communicate: you cannot about personal, you speak "about anything", only complain it of the spouse less. It at heart will find an occasion to regret the son, but not you. Send sometimes the husband to one, close people sometimes there is a wish to have a talk without witnesses, and he if finds it necessary to share with you - will consult, and is not present – and it is not necessary, do not extort about what they talked to mother there. And deserve respect, and do not charge with excess cargo yourself.