Very few people will like to repeat the words again and again, struggling with feeling that they are not heard and do not even try to hear. Inadmissibly, when it occurs in family, each her member has to respect another and listen to him.
How to begin a conversation that the husband paid attention to your words
It is important to woman to be able to force the spouse to concentrate on a topic of conversation. Often he perceives the words of the wife as a noise background, without listening attentively to their sense at all. Perhaps, the spouse herself is partly guilty of such reaction as she got used to speak about any nonsense. But in this case it is necessary to differentiate somehow women's "chatter" and serious subjects.
If the important conversation begins sharply and with voices raised, the husband, of course, will listen to your words, but constructive dialogue it can not turn out. Try to warn about the forthcoming important conversation in advance, it can be any introductory phrase, for example: "You are not busy now, we can talk?" Thus, you not only will draw attention of the husband, but also will let know that his opinion on the matter is not indifferent for you.
How to carry on a conversation that the husband understood importance of your words
If you and during all conversation place emphasis that you ask for help and council, it will promote the best concentration of attention at the husband. The interlocutor will be flattered with your trust and will try to penetrate with all responsibility into a topic of conversation and to approach vigorously a solution. Learn as much as possible precisely, accurately and briefly to state important thoughts. The more extensively you express, the it will be more difficult to grasp to the husband an essence of your narration and to focus on a conversation. Be not expressed by indistinct phrases and do not use hints. If your manner seems to the speech clear to you, it does not mean that it is also clear also for interlocutors. The husband can misunderstand told or just ignore. Try to speak quietly and without excess emotions. The quiet conversation is better remembered and acquired. If you need to convince of something the husband, try to consider all arguments and the facts in advance. The objective point of view without excess emotions and with good evidential base will help you to capture attention of the husband completely. Observe an accurate logical chain and do not jump from a subject on a subject. Do not drag out a conversation and try to keep within 7-15 minutes. If discussion lasts long too, both of you can forget what both of you spoke right at the beginning about, to lose thread of reasonings. Respect the interlocutor. If the husband starts talking, do not interrupt him and listen. When both interlocutors speak at the same time, none of them hear and tries to understand another.
How to finish a conversation that the husband listened to you and from now on
Let's the husband consider told by you. If the conversation was serious, on it a lot of time can leave. You do not hurry the spouse and do not demand the answer immediately. At the end of a conversation you can carefully ask a control question to be convinced that he listened to you. If it becomes clear that the interlocutor really missed something and listened, be not indignant, and quietly anew sound the thought missed by him.