The decision to leave the lover is made and it was necessary to realize it. Men on a miscellaneous perceive desire of the woman to break off the relations. Some of them treat it adequately and drop out of sight, others continue to impose the communication and turn the woman's life into continuous tortures.
1. For a start talk to the lover. Explain that you do not love him any more and you do not want to continue the relations. Motivate with truthful arguments. If you do not see in it the potential husband, so and speak to him. If you have a family, explain that this love triangle inflicts on your relatives suffering.
2. In the course of the conversation try to avoid abusive terms in relation to the former beloved. Men's self-loved quite vulnerable thing, and in some cases can be the cause of transformation of the appeasable partner into the unrestrained jealous man. In response to a statement about its low men's abilities he can persistently begin to prove the return.
3. The wounded male self-esteem can provoke constant prosecutions. He can meet accidentally you near work or in cafe, give flowers and do offers to start everything anew, to promise that everything will be in a different way. The nature of prosecutions can various, everything depends on the person. Pathological persecutors to whom the fact of renewal of relations is not so important meet how to prove to itself that it is capable of everything - including to return the woman at any cost. If your being from such - be careful of a talk with it and you pass by if happened. Firmly stand on the position, let it know that your relations are finished.
4. Do not provoke it, at casual meetings avoid phrases "You to me spoiled all life" or "I spent for you the best years". It will only strengthen his desire to return you back. Avoid a talk about the former lover in a circle of your mutual friends, do not write provocative information in social networks - where he can learn about your thoughts and make an attempt to meet.
5. It is quite difficult to leave that man who in the childhood did not get from mother enough love and cares. Such ex-lover can follow on heels, be kneeling and even to threaten with suicide in case your relations do not renew. To you it will be quite sore and it is a pity for him, however you remember - you for him only the tool for experiences of old childhood memories. Do not give in on its entreaties, all it is not you, and in its personal psychological features.
6. The heaviest type of the former lovers are "maniacs". These are psychopathic persons who categorically do not perceive refusals. It is possible to expect everything including criminal acts from them. With such people it is necessary to keep carefully, and at the slightest threats from its party to address to law enforcement agencies. Perhaps, after your first written statement will change little, but after repeated addresses to it not to avoid communication with law enforcement agencies.