Quite often from parents it is possible to hear such phrase: It seems in one family are brought up, and both children absolutely different! One ringleader and the zinger, and another – the meek creature, the taciturn person. How to help such child to find self-confidence – a subject of our article.
It is actually more uncertain children, than it seems to us. Roots of this evil need to be looked for in the wrong education. So, for example, frequent criticism to the child from parents, the instruction on mistakes in behavior will be surely led to decrease in a self-assessment, uncertainty and shyness. It is not necessary to offend and humiliate it, do not allow it and to other people. It is one of ways of how to help the child to become self-assured.
The child it is necessary to encourage, say constantly to him that everyone is able to it. Each its act requires attention and assessment. You say to him that you know how it was difficult for it that he coped with everything. Focus attention on good points.
The belief in abilities of own child will make a certain contribution to the solution of a question of how to help the child to be self-assured. Any kid will become more courageous if you ask him about the help: to remove toys own room or to cook pasta for dinner. Thereby you will develop a resistant self-assessment.
How to help the child to find friends?
As a rule, the excessive uncertainty prevents the child to find to itself friends. These several advice will help to avoid such situation.
- Train in skills of communication since the early childhood. Having received a certain knowledge base, the child adapts among peers in day nursery, kindergarten, school more simply. It have to be the most usual phrases: Hi, my name is Mischa. And what is your name?
- If you look at the world with a positive, then form at the child the positive attitude towards yourself and to all surrounding. You learn to operate the feelings and emotions, to be polite and benevolent.
- Physical development has to accompany intellectual. Physically developed children a priori feel confident.
- Communication with peers will give to your child a certain life experience. Invite children to yourself home, arrange joint visits of circus, cinema, theater. It will promote expansion of a circle of contacts at your child.
- It is impossible to interfere with the relations of children. They have to be able to settle the conflicts and disagreements. It is necessary to interfere only as a last resort when children are not able to make the independent correct decision and to settle misunderstanding.
The most important – train the child at own example!