Jokes about the scattered socks, are ridiculous exactly until so far the elect not there will be a sloven. Apple bits, dirty cups and constantly lost panel – that reality with which the new beloved husband can surround. What to do if to swear there are no forces, and there is a wish for an order and purity in the house.
To lower a level
You do not seek to turn cleaning into general every day. Agree with the husband that allocate one day off of week for joint cleaning. If it becomes at it a habit, that is probability of what he will clean up also during a week, the skills brought to automatism do not require attention.
You remember, managing to vacuum one hand, another – to dust, and a leg to swing a bed, the man will not understand why to rise from a sofa and to help. You, so, cope without him.
To address male rationalism
If in the house the small child or animals, it is necessary to explain to the spouse what danger in itself is concealed by his forgetfulness. For example, it left a plate with leftovers on a table. The cat or a dog can quietly reach, drop to it on a floor owing to what it will break. If the kid began to creep, then he can crawl to splinters and be wounded or what it is even worse to swallow them. Think what habits of the spouse can be the most dangerous, as for surrounding people and animals, and just for decoration, technicians.
Most of husbands consider that their wives just carp and do not see communication between a mess in the house and problems with health.
System approach
If up to this point all of you did, then it is not surprising that the spouse who did not penetrate where there has to be a pan and lie a brush, "to clean up" a request will vaguely perceive. Just it is necessary to change approach to storage which will be clear to all family members. Also do not do questions of cleaning by the main subject of a matrimonial talk. Minimize the conflicts on this matter that the husband had no reaction of a protest – if I do everything badly, then why then to do something. On the contrary, you praise if he showed willingness to help and do not adjust in cleaning, let does at the speed. Over time at it it will turn out to vacuum quicker, to wash the dishes more carefully.
The husband was a neatnik
During the next cleaning, you think how it would be good, be the spouse a neatnik. But present, you come from work home, and you begin to wash vegetables, and he says: "Not so! It is necessary to wash more carefully!". Or you put a clean plate on a table, and it selects it and begins to wipe with a clean napkin. So, day by day.
Or other option. The husband – the neatnik very much loves an order, but does not like to remove, only gives instructions where to wash, and where to vacuum. And if itself picks up a mop, then the apartment begins to resemble the operating room where it is not present to the place to lovely knickknacks. In couple of days you will grieve for the husband to the sloven.
Result one – the side is necessary everywhere, and you should not build house cleaning in a cult. Unless the fact of ideal purity in the house is more important than the fact that you have a beloved husband.