In any quarrels it is the best of all to come to consensus that any of the parties did not feel like a loser also restrained. It is so possible to keep harmony in the relations and to peacefully solve any conflicts. But to reach a consensus happens not simply, the self-control and the minimum skills of negotiations for this purpose is required.
Instruction
1. Refuse desire to be a winner. At a dispute between the loving people there are no winners, there are only losers. Restraining and offending the partner you feel guilty so you will not feel the joy of a victory. Perceive quarrels not as the battlefield, and as a negotiating table where it is possible to discuss a problem and through joint efforts to find an optimal solution.
2. You keep emotions under control. In the heat of a quarrel, advocating the interests, it is very simple to give in to feelings and to translate a conversation to mutual recriminations. But such tactics will not help you to find a solution but only it will create new problems. If you feel that are not ready to a conversation, it is better to postpone it for evening or other day. During this time you will be able to calm down and think of how to resolve the conflict peacefully.
3. Deal with the desires, accurately realize that you want to receive at the end. What solution would suit you, without restraining your darling. It is possible to find the ways of the decision comfortable for both parties in many questions. For example, if you love different genres of music, it is possible to listen to them in turn or to use wireless earphones. Think, try to find ways to solve a problem peacefully.
4. Sit down and quietly talk. You remember – your purpose not to achieve the, and to find the solution arranging both parties. Offer in turn options, discuss, but be not too critical. Sometimes it is possible to concede a little in nuances that it turned out to reach a consensus. But there should not be a situation when one person concedes in each quarrel, and the second receives the desirable. Each party has to feel happy.
5. When the best decision is made, discuss all moments on realization it in life. There are situations when theoretically everything sounds perfectly, but in practice there are unforeseen difficulties, it turns out not as there was a wish, or someone does not follow the plan.
6. Try to solve all conflicts according to such scenario, then in your relations there will be a harmony and happiness. You will cease to quarrel, and after a while all your problems will be solved quickly and amicably because it will become a habit.