In any, even most loving and stable married couple, there can be a conflict sooner or later. But all this is reparable. It is possible to improve newly opened, trusting relations after the quarrel if to learn correctly to behave after a showdown, not to save offense in itself.
Instruction
1. You do not seek to restore the relations right after the quarrel. Give the chance to yourself and to the partner to calm down, understand the mistake and to come to awareness of need of building relations. However to try to rumple the conflict will be the wrong decision as through some time the quarrel can erupt with a new force.
2. If take a detached view of all event, then try to put yourself to the place of darling. Thus you will be able to understand, as not in everything were right. Learn to recognize the mistakes.
3. Sit down at the negotiating table and in a comfortable situation, without shouts and tears (it can cause a repeated quarrel) tell about what you do not agree with. But do not begin a conversation with the words ""It Is Not Pleasant to Me."", use phrases better ""I would like..." "or" "I would be happy...""
4. Learn not only to listen quietly to opinion with which you can agree not, but also to hear it. Do not take in advance defensive position and you do not seek to see in all a dirty trick. Meet halfway each other better.
5. Find out the reason of your misunderstanding, a conflict essence. Then it will be simpler to you to agree about details, about further harmonious coexistence.
6. You are not ashamed to recognize the misses, be not afraid to take the first step. It will demonstrate not to your weakness, and to wisdom and a maturity.
7. Do not fall before insults at all, it will be difficult to you to forget all roughnesses and offensive statements subsequently. You look forward, in the future. Make plans for the joint, happy family life.
8. Think of how it would be difficult to endure to you separation from darling if it was not succeeded to improve the relations.
9. Learn to forgive and trust. You should not keep offenses in yourself, ""release"" them.
10. If you see that to agree and endure a conflict situation to you not under forces, address for consultation the family psychologist.