If you appeared in the family way, and your lover is married, situation from it becomes only zaputanny. How to tell the married lover that he will become a father soon? There are several councils which can help.
Did you enter the love relations with the married man? Then you have precisely unenviable position. Especially, if you were pregnant from this man. How to present him this news? There are several advice which will help also you, and to your lover to cope with a situation.
Gravity
As a subject serious, and it is necessary to speak seriously. Without affected joy or a grief. Equal and quiet tone in a private situation. And, of course, only personally. It is not necessary to write messages on this subject. Remember that your man – is not free, and someone from his family can accidentally find the message. Tell the lover that you got into difficulties. You – as couple, but not you one. After all, he took part in conception too. Do not accuse the man of anything, as well as yourself. Just establish the fact, and then take an interest in prospects on the future. Not only in respect of your relations, but also in respect of future child.
Adjust yourself correctly
Rehearse the speech of the house. Also adjust yourself on the fact that your news can be not such and pleasant for your partner. You have to be ready to it as, statistically, very small percent of married men leaves to the mistress because of pregnancy of the last. Set to yourself the task, not to take away the man from family, and to prepare him for paternity. Irrespective of whether there will be with you a man or not, it does not remove from it parental obligations. Report about it dry official tone, without excess emotions and hysteria.
Without emotionality
Try to keep the emotions under control. If you had enough courage to begin the relations with the married man, courage has to be enough and tell about pregnancy. It is desirable that the conversation took place in the place where nobody will be able to overhear you. First, excess eyes and ears in such conversation are not necessary. Secondly, not in your interests that someone learned that you meet the married man and expect from him a baby. If the man expressed sharply negative opinion on the future paternity, you should not press on it. Leave him alone for some time that he could consider everything. Be not imposed, do not catch sight whenever possible. It will allow it all the time to solve independently. Too strongly too you should not tighten with further plans. After a week try to contact the lover again. If its decision is invariable, find in yourself courage independently to solve the situation.