Husband tyrant, alas, not an unusual occurrence. There is not a lot of reasons for which the man shows the worst qualities. Unfortunately, in a similar situation it is difficult to save the relations.
When in family there is a violence, late to correct something
Psychologists claim that the tendency to violence is shown most often by persons of no character. Violence helps such people to lower the victim to the level, to show superiority. Usually the people inclined to violence have serious diffidence for this reason all negative is splashed out on family.
The diffidence is a consequence of inability to communicate therefore the psychological weak, diffident man does not even try to explain something to the woman with words, and first of all uses the fists. And violence in family can happen not only in the form of manhandling, threat, humiliating rules for family members – all this is a violence form. Insubordination to rules brings to oppression, humiliation and physical abuse. And moral and psychological influences affect mentality of the victim much stronger, than actually a beating.
The family relations - the battlefield
House tyrants seek for leadership where nobody fights back them. The family intimidated by the tyrant often does not even report to anybody about current situation. Our society is not ready to help and provide protection by that who suffers from domestic violence. For this reason men, inclined to house tyranny, I feel so freely. Almost for certain the intimidated victim about will tell nobody, and more because of shame, but not for fear. Actually, women give carte blanche on tyranny to the man instead of filing for a divorce.
If you at least once fell the victim of violence, do not wait for repetition. You leave such man.
As a rule, the predisposition to violence is put in the early childhood. And roots of female sacrifice and inability to protect itself too a sort from there. It is awful that the position of the victim can be expressed a phrase "I itself it is guilty in all that happens to me". A family aggressor, subjecting the wife to a beating and violence, drives in into her that it brought him to this situation. And the woman often begins to believe that she really badly tried. House tyrants usually are quite good manipulators therefore they form the acquired helplessness at the victims.
Be not afraid to tell about current situation to parents, friends or acquaintances. The earlier you will get out of the similar relations, the better.
Male tyrants are divided into several categories. Those who are inclined to violence in the heat of passion after emotions recede enter the first, they most often repent and ask forgiveness. Those who just do not see anything bad in that resembling enter the second category to give to the wife slap in the face. In the third – people who have a dependence on violence. Any stimulators unbraking consciousness considerably worsen a situation.