To be a parent not so simply, and to be a good parent — even more difficult. But whether so it actually? How to distinguish in itself the good parent? How to bring up the child it is correct?
Education — business difficult. Each parent wants to be ideal for the child, but most often, what mom or dad consider correct, badly affects their child.
Excessive guardianship and constant control, intimidation, punishments by silence, disrespect of personal space, imposing of hobbies uninteresting to the kid, is only a part of signs which are characteristic of the toxic relations or toxic parents. In such families children constantly are in a condition of a stress, feel psychological discomfort.
As to learn what to pay attention at education of the child to and over what it is worth working? How to become the good parent?
Good parents:
- are able to control the emotions and acts;
- can financially support the child as they have a constant income;
- do not impose to the kid the interests;
- are capable to put themselves to the place of the child;
- protect the child from bad acquaintances;
- learn to struggle with the fears;
- develop in themselves high qualities;
- fully answer children's questions.
However, all this is still not enough to become the exemplary parent. There are signs on which it is possible to make sure that mom with dad do not make serious mistakes in education of the child and are good parents.
1. The child studies on the mistakes
In the educational purposes it is useful for child to give from time to time the chance to learn something on own mistakes. However, it does not mean that he needs to be left absolutely unguarded and to endanger health of the kid. Parents have to control a situation, but remain rather cool at the last minute not to take everything in hand and not to prevent a vital lesson.
2. Parents realize that their child — the personality
The good parent respects personal space of the child and allows it to be engaged in the fact that it is interesting to it. Moreover, the good parent can help the child with his hobbies.
The kid likes to draw? You should not limit him in it. Give him paints, brushes and the big sheet of paper. Even if the child all was soiled at once in paint, you should not worry because of his appearance and to distract from creativity — it is possible, in the future he will become the ingenious artist.
3. The child follows safety rules when there are no parents nearby
One of main objectives of each parent — to teach the child to safety rules. When parents are busy with house efforts, and children are in other room and observe precautionary measures, is an excellent indicator that all obtained information on safety rules did not pass by children's ears. The good parent will make every effort that he will successfully cope with this task.
4. Mom and dad on the experience set the child a good example
Each person has shortcomings. If one of parents smokes, but at the same time tries to explain to the child that smoking damages health and tobacco is intended only for adults — hardly the child will believe in it. Parents for the kid are an authority therefore its relation to any given things will depend on what example is set to it by mom with dad.
You should not forget the fact that children absorb information as a sponge. How to inform the child on harm of smoking, to teach to wash hands after pets and walks? To show it on own example, for example, having left off smoking — good parents quite so do.
Here it is possible to carry the relations of parents. Both mom and dad belong each other, and the child will treat in the future the soulmate. Good relations of parents will help with the future to start a good family them to the child. Therefore it is important that mom and dad were always in good relations with each other even if business reached a divorce. It is impossible to assume at all that the child saw how his parents swear, and especially, fight if the quarrel turned into manhandling.
5. Parents support the child when he is mistaken
The child making mistakes, loses interest, for example, in study? He is sure that it in any business is waited only by failures? How to lift its self-assessment? Very simply! It is only necessary to support the child and to show on own example that mom and dad are mistaken too, but do not lower a hand and continue to move to the purpose — exemplary parents quite so arrive. Not superfluous will praise the kid for his progress.
6. Parents sometimes suit a family dinner
One of signs of good education is the family dinner. At the same time it is very important that neither children, nor parents "stuck" in the gadgets. Such family dinners positively affect children.
Statistically, in such families at children the self-assessment is higher, the progress at school is better, the tendency to smoking and alcohol intake is less.
7. Sometimes children are angry with the parents
From time to time children are angry with the parents for the fact that those control their study, demand to respect seniors, to protect younger and weak, forbid to swear swear words, and for a fault refuse pleasures. Each child psychologically needs control by parents, but not always children perceive such restrictions adequately.
8. Mom or dad consider themselves the bad parent
Most often parents who consider themselves ideal actually make many mistakes in education. And those who consider themselves the bad parent on the contrary raise the children correctly. You should not be excessively strict to yourself or to doubt constantly the methods of education.
9. Even in the absence of parents children behave adequately
If in absence a number of parents the child does not give in to negative pressure from peers, for example, does not throw stones in pigeons, does not offend weak when his schoolmates act this way — mom and dad can be proud of themselves. To impart to the child morality and the good principles, it is necessary to put a lot of effort. Not each parent manages it, the child is influenced not only by parents and relatives, but also those who surround the child in kindergarten, school.
10. The child does not doubt that mom with dad love him
For the child there is nothing better, than to feel protected and loved by the parents. If the kid knows that mom and dad love him, will not stop loving under no circumstances and will be able always to protect him — it is possible to tell with confidence that it has exemplary parents. Therefore it is important to say to the child that he is loved, to embrace him, to pay him enough attention.
11. Parents have interests, desires and the purposes
Good parents have hobbies, the purposes and desires about which they do not forget. Good parents know that it is impossible to plunge into life of the children as it can bring that the child will grow up the helpless egoist completely.
However, most often it happens that after the child's birth, parents completely devote themselves to the child that badly affects it. To avoid problems in the future, it is necessary already now to begin to work. It is necessary to find for itself hobbies to liking, to start over again meeting friends and girlfriends, to visit interesting places in the city or the next reserves where it is possible to go to have a rest all family and so on.
On these simple signs it is possible to distinguish in himself the exemplary parent.