As time quickly flies! Quite recently we struggled with a task how to adapt to the child in kindergarten, and it is already necessary to prepare for school. Today prepare for school nearly since the birth. People thought up already so many techniques and courses! At schools nearly examinations should be taken that the child was taken in the first class. In these alarms the parents forget about the main thing: to psychological preparation for one of the most important stages in life.
Why the child is not ready to school
Not only the child, but also all family should prepare. Parents got an education during a Post-Soviet era, and grandmothers and grandfathers became witnesses of formation of Soviet period. Now values changed cardinally, and confirm it even at the top level.
The first to that any parent has to learn – to control an emotional condition of the child. Unfortunately, we have no such culture. In modern vanity for it there is not enough time. At school each teacher offers the technique and gives to pupils loading, often without thinking of their health and abilities. The child has a stress owing to what his health worsens. And it disturbs only parents.
Only a few units of teachers think of children. All thoughts are busy them with own subject. It is necessary to teach parents to watch the native pupils and to pay attention not only to progress. Often they either neglect it, or load the child with additional classes, trying to make of him the child prodigy and without thinking of the reasons of such study. The main objective of parents - completely different. First of all, the child has to be warmed with love.We live during a capitalism era, and it means that control levers the person changed. There are feelings that parents still remained during an era of the proletariat when we have to do what to us was told by party. Parents have to be exacting, but their requirements should not be cruel. It is necessary to help the child to become independent and cultural, and the school will give knowledge.
The modern school does not give any education. The child, except knowledge, needs to learn communication and interaction with similar. And here the main role is played by parental education. If parents excessively preserve the child against the adversities arising on his way, then it will remain the child of years to forty and is more senior. And it will be chagrin for aged parents. They will understand that they will not be able to retire and their help still will be required. All this can occur because once, they missed the moment and uncontrolledly gave independence to the child.
Parents can bring up aggression in the child, motivating it with the fact that such world and will be so better and easier. It is too a bad move which will lead to problems in adulthood. The excessive sympathy harms. Usually in such families and the relations between the wife and the husband are not got on. The child sees it and as soon as is able, will leave family, trying to arrange in "free floating" to himself the better life, but usually it does not leave.
Happens that parents openly show to the child his fault. Show him a wrong move, but at the same time forgetting the mistakes. And the heavier there live parents, the more seriously they impose requirements. It turns out that the child gets not support, and goes deep into the state even more.Parents has to prepare the child for situations which he did not test earlier. Therefore it is necessary to change together with him. He should not be frightened coming difficulties, and to prepare for them. He has to want to go to school. After five years if at the child the intellectual base is well developed, it is already possible to decide on future profession, and parents have to help with it. Then it will be already interesting to him at school.
In addition, it is necessary to be interested that carries away it and to praise for any achievement. Praises has to be more, than abuse (3/4 to 1/4). If reasons for abuse more, so it is necessary to look for what to praise it. Success will be promoted by organization and love for an order. Do not teach it anywhere but only will abuse. In a pursuit of knowledge it is necessary to take a break and to develop the child in other directions. Show him the world from the fine party.
Preparation
For the present the summer is also time to prepare future first grader for school. It is necessary to open for the child that he not the first on this way. For greater persuasiveness take an old album with photos which store your school image, and show that this fate did not pass also you. Share the children's experiences, tell about the school life and draw unostentatious conclusions on advantage of study.
Even being on the street, do not waste time. For example, be engaged in calligraphy, using a stick and sand, and surely explain why it is necessary. Walking, you can come into shop and choose some accessories to school. It is important to do it together that the child himself could choose the acquired goods. If he asks to buy a toy at this moment, do not refuse to it. Perhaps, it will become the assistant in study.It is possible to begin to learn to consider on stones or on sticks. And it is possible to do it in the course of acquaintance with the world around, combining process with care of the relatives. Do not forget to teach to compare objects. The child has to distinguish a concept more or less, round or square, etc. The ability to read and write will not bring up in it the good person, the sensitive and kind son. Therefore try to address in the lessons the eternal truth, you learn to remember the child the family and not to remain the deaf to others troubles.
Play board games in the evening. They teach a certain order and self-restriction. It is necessary to learn to lose and set it an example in it. You teach the child to feel pleasure from process of a game, but not from the fact that he became a winner. Let will better show the knowledge and sharpness during process, and the status of the winner can grow in his shower a pride seed that it will prevent in adulthood.
It is very important that your child wanted to go to school and it it was perceived by him as a heavy duty. Parents perfectly understand it and at the same time realize weight of a task. Therefore there is a wish to wish that once the child told you: "Mom, as I want in school"!